STORY LOG
02/02/14
“Capitalism and Other Kids’ Stuff” – a popular new film, which argues the anti-capitalist case in simple language, and which has won much acclaim in recent months - is now re-edited and can be viewed and downloaded as a BitTorrent at www.socialist-tv.com This version of the film is a re-edited version of the original that was produced in March, and contains a lot of imagery not seen in the first version. The film, made by 4 members of The Socialist Party in the UK, is 52 minutes in duration and, beginning with a look at how we treat our children, explains in non-jargonised terms, the insanity of a system that places profit before human need. Please note, this is not some leftie Party political broadcast, just a sane look at an insane world that is very much crying out for real change, change that can only be brought about by a majority, acting in their own interests and without leaders, to bring about a moneyless system society in which people have fee access to the benefits of civilisation. The film has been viewed since March some 18000 times, and has been screened in several universities across the USA.
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Former US Address 1750 Bay Ridge Avenue 2nd Floor Brooklyn New York 11204 UK Correspondence Address 78 Marylebone High Street Suite 47 London, W1U 5AP VP Richard Cheney White House Washington DC Ref: Continued Sabotage Date: 7th June 2005 Dear Vice President Cheney, I wrote to you a few months ago outlining the behaviour portrayed by both Imperial College London against me and at Land Rover against my brother. Land Rover was given the Ok by the government to act in the manner it did as well as prevent my brother getting access to free independent legal counsel. Much like what we are seeing in the USA at current. It seems the behaviour at Imperial was instigated by Shell through Hakluyt’s involvement with the British Government. It has become apparent that Hakluyt International had on its board several members which used their connections to gain information as and when they wanted for Shell Transport and Trading in particular. Lord Trotman was integral in making connections with Shell Transport and Trading, Imperial College London, Ford, IBM, University of Cambridge (CMI Institute) and Hakluyt and Company itself. It was therefore unfortunate when we learned that Lord Trotman had suddenly passed away during my wifes and my trip to the US. In particular it seems that Lord Trotman was very close to Sir Richard Sykes who is the current Rector of Imperial College London and who was instrumental in removing my funding as well as preventing me from getting my PhD studies conducted. Professor Julia Higgins was appointed Chairman of EPSRC Council in April, 2003 and my funding from EPSRC was also stopped along with Halliburton in late February 2005. Currently Lord Kerr also a Shell director is on the Imperial Court along with Eileen Buttle who is also a Shell Director. Sir Richard Sykes was instructed to get me out of Imperial College and so got the Head of the Department to invoke a regulation 7 on me which basically happened because for 9 months Imperial College engaged in a pre-orchestrated attack on me during my research. When I complained to both the UK and US government by writing to the White House they tried to get rid of me through a Kangaroo style court in which on my appeal I asked 3 students and 3 faculty members to attend. Not a single witness attended because UK intelligence prevented them from allowing me to cross-exam them. Sir Richard Sykes (Rector) of Imperial was trying to get me out of Imperial College so any rule (even made up or customised would do) was invented by Imperial. I had my senior advisor Professor Hewitt ask me several times in the 1st quarter of 2004 to change supervisors, which I didn’t want to do, he was instructed by Imperial to slow my work down on equipment so that Halliburton may comment on my progress, he asked me to do work which was not warranted. Professor Hewitt didn’t want to do any research papers with me or my junior advisor and actually told me that ‘Imperial College was leaning on him’ with regards to trying to get rid of me? My junior advisor (Alex Bismarck) thumped me on my back three times over a period of time despite me telling him not do so. He referred to porn sites, he didn’t inform me when another student was transferring to the PhD despite being in the same group, he didn’t inform me to go to Safety meetings when he should of and generally acted in a non-interested manner. Again this was due to the intelligence services. Students were being bullied and pressurized to ask me things from Intelligence services which was very specific. The environment at Imperial was staged so that I would get fed-up and leave however because I didn’t do that they decided to change tactics. I wrote to outside of the college because Imperial faculty and staff on purpose did not do anything about their own orchestrated actions. It was a disgraceful and almost comical they way the department of Chemical Engineering behaved. They department orchestrated many things apart from slowing my work down, they also made me conduct reaction engineering work where as all other students were allowed to conduct laboratories with junior students. Imperial orchestrated my work with reaction engineering that backfired since I decided I was too busy to work on their reaction engineering equipment. Halliburton has conspired with Imperial College to ensure not only my funding was stopped but that I could not continue with my PhD programme. Three of the Halliburton staff including Ian Robb in Oklahoma along with his manager were instructed to review my work and provide a feedback to the US in particular back to Shell. In addition the staff at Halliburton tried to give me a hard time during a normal update on my work. This occurred because US intelligence did not want my wife and I returning to the USA and so got Halliburton to work overtime with Imperial College to ensure that happened. As I had indicated that if my studies continue to be effected by Imperial College as well as Halliburton in the USA via continued pressure from John Ashcroft in the Department of Justice who just recently resigned from his post then my wife and I would be returning back to the USA. We hope VP Cheney that the US intelligence stop playing games and stop tying to set us up continuously. The DOJ is fully aware that my family is Sikh and continue to try and play games with us. The FBI wrote to Hillary Clinton (November 2003) stating that my wife’s and my concerns were not substantiated, however, Mr Pistole who is now deputy director of the FBI failed to address our actual encounters with law enforcement harassing us including. My wife and I were willing to meet with Robert Mueller (FBI Director) however he has continually declined which concerns us: The FBI are the ones which work within the DOJ. (1) Following my wife and I when we left our Brooklyn house in unmarked vehicles (2) Approaching my wife and I and stopping their vehicle near us before driving off. (3) In Philadelphia I caught an agent sitting in a car with a FBI plate watching me (4) Stopping the electricity in the hotel that my wife and I was staying in during our visit to New Jersey, breaking into our room (the only room in Philadelphia which suffered an electricity blackout!) and stealing my wife’s company Lap Top (5) A police car and two black SUV’s pulling into a shopping mall in Philadelphia after my trip to St Georges to see a furniture store. Placing their lights on my vehicle before pulling away. All these actions and many more have been orchestrated by John Ashcroft through instructions of the Vice Presidents office. In addition it seems that John Ashcroft’s team went as far as possible to try and discredit my wife and I: 1) First they tried to make us Muslim extremists when we were in fact Sikhs and they knew that. 2) They were involved in using Onkar Sangha a family relative to try and set-us up in the UK during a trip to find funding. The stitch up included discrediting President G. W Bush and bad mouthing John Ashcroft. The person doing this was a muslin with a long sounding name. I reported him to the British police and anti-terrorist team but because the UK intelligence through Hakluyt were part of the failed conspiracy they did not come and talk to me. 3) They then tried to discredit my wife because she was reading a book by Hillary Clinton, this anti-democratic actions was purposely being driven by a republican DOJ. 4) Despite my wife’s and my support for the US troops in Iraq as well as my wife’s and my funding to the Bush-Cheney 2004 funding drive to help fight terrorism and as well as my involvement with the oil industry in Houston, my meeting and friendship with the former Vice Chairman of Halliburton Mr K Lesur and as well as my visit to Dallas in 1999 to visit you Mr Cheney after speaking to Mr. Lesur (you were out of the office that day), the DOJ purposely neglected this information because of John Ashcroft. 5) I believe it is time that the new Director of Intelligence should address this matter so that my wife when we return to the USA can continue with our efforts to contribute to the US economy. 6) In January 2005 my junior supervisor Alex Bismarck stated that John Ashcroft is supposed to be a ‘good Christian’ implying the problems that we faced in the US was squarely due to him. In addition Mr Bismarck commented that every-time you go to that country they bend you over, why would you even want to go the USA? Unfortunately it seems that the US intelligence not only interfered with my visit but also got my attorneys son (Mr. Edward Bronson at (646) 485-7700) to get information from me asking me to get a mobile phone in the USA as well as getting me to create an email account (sikh@iname.com). In addition the intelligence got Edward to get me to go to Kinko’s to print some material for him. This was a set-up since the FBI has reported that Kinko’s is apparently used by suspected terrorists. That may be the case but that has nothing to do with me or my family, so I would respectfully ask why it was that my attorneys son was asked to get me to go to Kinko’s other than put us on false and continued suspicion on my wife and I. We (my wife and I) will be coming back to the USA because Shell has used its connections with Hakluyt and the UK government to make false and misleading information to the USA intelligence community for their own orchestrated means. Shell via Hakluyt abused the US intelligence time and resources to have my wife’s mine and our family’s academic and professional pursuits sabotaged due to Shells request. In addition because Lord Trotman was also on the IBM board they used IBM to ensure that my wife and I got removed from IBM in New York. IBM’s manager and directors knew exactly what they were doing and so became part of the conspiracy. It is however very unfortunate that Lord Trotman died on April 26th after a very short and unexpected illness. However IBM currently has replaced Lord Trotman with another member of the Hakluyt Board and that is Minoru Makihara. This was how IBM conducted its businesses as usual, I am sure that Sam Palmisano is aware of that. It is fair to say that IBM did not know the degree of conspiracy by Shell to sabotage my family work, nevertheless they were an integral part of it, up-to the senior management level. In addition the Justice Department has been preventing my attorney (Larry Bronson) from doing his job in fairly representing me. They have prevented him from contacting individuals who the US intelligence had threatened and approached during my wife’s stay during January 2001 and October 2003 in New York and generally working on the case. During my wife’s and my recent trip to the USA the US intelligence were back to their no good activities, it is clear that the new Director of the National Intelligence can offer us hope in resolving these issues. My wife and I have suggested that the FBI, CIA and NSA need to once and for all get together and have the courage to come forward and not conduct business in the background. We want answers and we want those individuals in Shell and the appropriate intelligence services to be bought to justice and imprisoned for their orchestrated behaviour. I have initiated a business in New York (Jupiter Computer Services: bsgjupiter@usa.com) which would allow computers to be placed in Hotel rooms in New York City but after the US intelligence followed us they sabotaged and contacted the appropriate General Managers and other staff to stop the deals: 1/ The Park Savoy hotel (58th Street Between 6th and 7th Avenue) where we were staying: Mike and Tony the front desk staff had been approached to ask questions etc. 2/ Eric Long Waldorf Astoria Hotel, New York City 3/ Per Hellman and Pamela Burk Director at the Millennium Hotel New York City 4/ GM of both Sheraton Hotels in Times Square New York City (owned by Starwood Hotels and Resorts) 5/ As a result of the interference by intelligence Barry Sternlicht resigned as executive chairman on 5th May 2005 and vacating his board seat as Chairman of Starwood Hotels and Resorts and has subsequently just moved to Starwood Capital. He been working with Leman Brothers on property deals. The significance of Lehman is that during a trip to the USA I entered the Times Square location of Lehman Brothers in New York City to get a brochure for my wife. However those following us made an incorrect assessment and shortly thereafter my wife received an email from Lehman Brothers to her Cambridge University email account (db355@cam.ac.uk) saying that her application had been unsuccessful. However my wife never applied for any position at Lehman and so to get a rejection was very disturbing! 6/ Owner of The Wellington Hotel, New York City 7/ John Canavan GM The Edison Hotel, New York City 8/ General Manager, The Marriot Marque Time Square 9/ Bob Boughner CEO Borgato Hotel (1-646-549-8923) 10/ Wanda Chan GM The Warwick Hotel (212-314-7830) 11/ Milford Plaza (Mr Andrew Hamilton and his team (212-869-3600) 12/ Vikram Chatwal (Hotelier) (212-474-9800) 13/ Yezdi Katrak Director of Operations (212-752-7000) 14/ Recently Kirk Kekorian secretary (Jacky) at the Tracinda Group Head office was contacted by US intelligence who instructed her to tell me to contact Terri Lenni’s office (1-702-693-77123). When I did I was asked to speak to Janet, Mr Randy Morton’s secretary (1-702-7307100) he was debriefed to try to ensure that he puts me off doing business with the MGM Mirage group. Initially Janet was asked to get me to email him initially so that intelligence could get my email address. Intelligence should go talk to Nigel Wheatley who has stopped my Imperial College email access. 15/ Recently Thomas Pritzker’s (Hyatt Hotel Chairman) secretary (1-312-873-4900) was contacted during my call (by intercepting our call and putting me on hold) she asked to ensure that when I sent a fax to his office that my telephone contact be definitely attached which it obviously would have been. The list continues…. In all cases the issue was around how much free cash would be available to me. This was to stop my wife and I continuing with our case against the very same intelligence individuals that are involved. I believe this is outrageous behaviour which needs to halt immediately. This Bigotry and discrimination is a theme which seems to be running through these issues. We also indicated that my wife in her role as International Women’s Officer for Cambridge University invited both the first lady Laura Bush, Mrs Lynne Cheney and Hillary Clinton to attend an international function, however the intelligence services diverted and destroyed the communications. These efforts were due to a desperate attempt to prevent my wife from speaking to the first lady, Lynne Cheney and Hillary Clinton. However this type of interception only shows the efforts that the intelligence community went to. We have on several occasions stated that you could ask Mr M. Singh Prime Minster of India about our family as my father-in-law is the President of the Indian Overseas Congress Party and has met the Prime Minster on several occasions. In addition my father-in-law has been at Buckingham Palace to have tea with her Majesty the Queen. We are disappointed at the actions portrayed by the US intelligence and in particular the interfere and sabotage they have caused during employment and academic work. Equally we are disappointed by the actions of Shell through Hakluyt and the UK government. Shell and Hakluyt is getting protection from the government since Tony Blair used Lord Inge who was on Hakluyt’s board to come onto the Butler inquiry. In addition Sir Richard Sykes also was placed on the History Museum by Tony Blair. This for obvious reasons shows miss-aligned objectives and the rector therefore feels he is untouchable along with his subordinates. We have as stated written to Tony Blair but have had our paper work diverted or destroyed. We would be grateful if you could ask Tony Blair whether he was aware when Imperial College removed me from Imperial College during his visit to Imperial and what knowledge he has in our case. More importantly Tony Blair should advice us on whether it was Hakluyt’s men or the British Intelligence who were getting students that shared the same office as mine at Imperial College to discredit and make fun of the President, Vice President and Ms Condoleezza Rice. Only after I showed a picture of VP Dick Cheney in the same SPE journal as myself did the room go quite and the bantering stop. Again I would not blame the students only the intelligence services who prompted them to act in this manner. Imperial College, rather than acting as an institution of excellence acted as a second class circus act. An answer from the Prime Minister Mr Blair would be very helpful as well as the role of Richard Sykes. This is not how governments are supposed to do business. The US intelligence have been preventing my wife and I working in the USA, however this we hope you would agree should not be tolerated. In addition Halliburton and Schlumberger both joined the bandwangon on instructions from the USA to make trouble with my research at Imperial College. Sir Richard Sykes and the Chairman of Schlumberger share on the same board as Rio Tinto Plc. And Shell has both Halliburton and Schlumberger as not only service providers but also joint venture partners. Shell Transport and Trading needs to be shut down and its Directors needs to be criminally charged and IBM’s directors need to be fined as accomplices for enacted out Shells wishes. Imperial Colleges rector Sir Richard Sykes needs to be removed from Imperial College London and his subordinate team including Nigel Wheatley Geoffrey Hewitt, Alex Bismarck, Julie Higgins and Stephen Richardson all need to stand in-front of a legitimate court and answer for their collective disgraceful behaviour and bastardisation of the Sikh Religion. It is interesting to note that Richard Sykes was instructed to ‘somehow’ remove me from Imperial, he handed this command to Stephen Richardson who imposed a frivolous regulation against me. In addition Stephen Richardson failed to address all of the inconsistent behaviour by his Faculty members as well as the students because UK intelligence said it was OK to do so. I was asked to retract my statements or otherwise my research would be affected, this insidious threat was enacted by Nigel Wheatley, and after I refused to do such a thing the only way for Imperial to get out of their mess was to enforce yet another frivolous and non-compliant regulation which stated that I must get a medical check-up. It was mapped out in advance during the last quarter of 2004 that the individual who was going to do the medical was under pressure to deliver results desperate to save Imperial Colleges disgraceful behaviour and Image. My obvious reluctance led to them to continue pressurizing me by stopping my PhD funding as well as my funding from Halliburton Energy Services, subsequently they have pulled my funding as a pre-orchestrated strategy. Geoffrey Hewitt needs to address and answer who it was in Imperial College who was leaning on him and who it was that asked Richard Sykes to invoke convenient regulations. The net of all this is that Imperial through a less convincing manner have stopped my funding and stopped me from conducting my research at Imperial College. In addition VP Cheney we would like the new Director of National Intelligence to take our material and enquire why such abuse took place at the Department of Justice. My wife and I have not done anything apart from become Shell Transport and Tradings (40% partner of Royal Dutch) directors pet project of miss-abuse and criminal behaviour. The reserves scandal suffered by Shell is just the tip of the iceberg that the directors were involved with. Please also note that UK Intelligence are interfering with my wife’s sister in relation to her personal life, every time a Sikh boy wants to talk to her in relation to potential marriage as is the case in our religion the boys are asked questions from the UK intelligence services. Tony Blair has to openly discuss this matter and more importantly address who actually is running the intelligence services in the UK? We are sending our resumes as well as the Hakluyt board members and their additional links to business and the UK government. It is clear that Shell used Hakluyt and the British intelligence to lie to the USA and used the US intelligence to carry out their devious work against my family. Royal Dutch needs to remove the entire UK directors and make appropriate changes. VP Cheney my wife and I would like to meet with you in Washington so that you can help in assisting in this criminal behaviour and we thank you for your time in advance. Kind Regards Baldev Singh Gill
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I am a gay 24 yr old male who is addicted to chat rooms. I am in a great 2 yrrelationship, am close with my family and friends, have a wonderful job and am in grad school. I am afraid my chatting online might start effecting my life negatively if I don't start seeking advice. As of right now I go on for long periods of time (5-9hrs) once every week or so. I have never cheated on my partner, and don't plan to. The internet serves as an outlet for me when he's not around (work, activites, ect)....a place to fulfull my random sexual fantasies without actually doing them. I regularly go online to seek out people who will talk about similar unusual sexual fantasies because, being anonymous, it is safe to do so. The fantasy I have is related to having sex with identical twins - and it was created, in part, because my partner is a twin. He knows about the fantasy and that I feel bad about having it, and it comfortable with my feelings. Of course, however, we would never play it out. I go online seeking people who have twins (or pretend to) to enact a fantasy that would not happen in reality. Lately the twin fantasy has been the sole reason I go onto chat rooms and I don't like the fact that it is consuming so much of my time. I have a degree in psychology which makes me believe this is either a form of OCD or addiction -- I just don't know how to curb this. I can't stop using the internet because I need it for work. Any suggestions?
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I've been online for a few years now, but was addicted in the first month. I spend between 5-20 hours on the internet everday. I have destroyed my marriage, my home and everything I cared about. There has to be a way to stop this! This is no life at all.
I've been online for a few years now, but was addicted in the first month. I spend between 5-20 hours on the internet everday. I have destroyed my marriage, my home and everything I cared about. There has to be a way to stop this! This is no life at all.
Hi everyone.. well where can I start from.. I guess from the day I decided to get help... through Internet...after I broke up with my fiancè.Result: I am an internetaholic now!!! I couldnt find a job as I would be completely absorbed in the net for hours and hours.. days!!!! I would be on line in the evenings and sleep in the day! My life had completely changed direction!!! By all means. I would go on line and chat..chat..and chat! I was at first searching for on-line company and used the depression chat room to spill out all my problems of loneliness, abandonment etc...
I've been in theraphy for a couple of years now and am working and sleeping well. I am starting to have REAL friends and a decent lifestyle! But.. I just broke off with my fiancè.... and.. am starting again to fall back into internet. So tonight I decided I'd so something worth doing as my on-line friends are not .. on-line and do some research.. and found you!
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I am still keeping my guard up because I don't want to get hurt again. Please help me understand this disease and how to help him get the treatment he needs. The only thing that has come between us in our marriage is the damn internet. That's it! This is all new to me and I don't know how to deal with it. I know it's an addiction and there's got to be some way to treat it. Thank you.
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#1) Sean Han 13800 Biola Avenue Box 1944 La Mirada, CA 90639 #2) Lo Xiong 430 Knox Ave North Minneapolis, MN 55405 #3) Ben Northcutt 5001 Lincoln Rd Indianapolis, IN 46228 #4) Mike Laury 10 Snapdragon Irvine, CA 92604 #5)Lisa Martin 11903 18th Avenue Chippewa Falls, WI 54729 #6)Tiffany D’Elia 25 Papa Ln. Cameron NC, 28326
MAKE SURE THAT YOU DO THIS PART RIGHT. MOVE EACH NAME UP, "NOT" DOWN. STEP 2: Now take the #1 name off the list that you see above, move the other names up (6 becomes 5, 5 becomes 4, etc...) and add YOUR Name as number 6 on the list. STEP 3: Change anything you need to, but try to keep this article as close to original as possible. Now, post your amended article to at least 200 newsgroups. (I think there are close to 24,000 groups) All you need is 200, but remember, the more you post, the more money you make! This is perfectly legal! If you have any doubts, refer to Title 18 Sec. 1302 & 1341 of the Postal lottery laws. Keep a copy of these steps for yourself and, whenever you need money, you can use it again, and again. PLEASE REMEMBER that this program remains successful because of the honesty and integrity of the participants and by their carefully adhering to the directions. Look at it this way. If you are of integrity, the program will continue and the money that so many others have received will come your way. NOTE: You may want to retain every name and address sent to you, either on a computer or hard copy and keep the notes people send you. This VERIFIES that you are truly providing a service. (Also, it might be a good idea to wrap the $1 bill in dark paper to reduce the risk of mail theft.) So, as each post is downloaded and the directions carefully followed, six members will be reimbursed for their participation as a List Developer with one dollar each. Your name will move up the list geometrically so that when your name reaches the #1 position you will be receiving thousands of dollars in CASH!!! What an opportunity for only $6.00 ($1.00 for each of the first six people listed above) Send it now, add your own name to the list and you're in business! DIRECTIONS FOR HOW TO POST TO NEWSGROUPS Step 1) You do not need to re-type this entire letter to do your own posting. Simply put your cursor at the beginning of this letter and drag your cursor to the bottom of this do#####ent, and select 'copy' from the edit menu. This will copy the entire letter into the computer's memory. Step 2) Open a blank 'notepad' file and place your cursor at the top of the blank page. From the 'edit' menu select 'paste'. This will paste a copy of the letter into notepad so that you can add your name to the list. Step 3) Save your new notepad file as a .txt file. If you want to do your postings in different settings, you'll always have this file to go back to. Step 4) Use Netscape or Internet explorer and try searching for various newsgroups (on-line forums, message boards, chat sites, discussions.) Step 5) Visit these message boards and post this article as a new message by highlighting the text of this letter and selecting paste from the edit menu. Fill in the Subject, this will be the header that everyone sees as they scroll through the list of postings in a particular group, click the post message button. You're done with your first one! Congratulations...THAT'S IT! All you have to do is jump to different newsgroups and post away, after you get the hang of it, it will take about 30 seconds for each newsgroup! **REMEMBER, THE MORE NEWSGROUPS YOU POST IN, THE MORE MONEY YOU WILL MAKE!! BUT YOU HAVE TO POST A MINIMUM OF 200** That's it! You will begin receiving money from around the world within days! You may eventually want to rent a P.O.Box due to the large amount of mail you will receive. If you wish to stay anonymous, you can invent a name to use, as long as the postman will deliver it. **JUST MAKE SURE ALL THE ADDRESSES ARE CORRECT.** Now the WHY part: Out of 200 postings, say I receive only 5 replies (a very low example). So then I made $5.00 with my name at #6 on the letter. Now, each of the 5 persons who just sent me $1.00 make the MINIMUM 200 postings, each with my name at #5 and only 5 persons respond to each of the original 5, that is another $25.00 for me, now those 25 each make 200 MINIMUM posts with my name at #4 and only 5 replies each, I will bring in an additional $125.00! Now, those 125 persons turn around and post the MINIMUM 200 with my name at #3 and only receive 5 replies each, I will make an additional $626.00! OK, now here is the fun part, each of those 625 persons post a MINIMUM 200 letters with my name at #2 and they each only receive 5 replies, that just made me $3,125.00!!! Those 3,125 persons will all deliver this message to 200 newsgroups with my name at #1 and if still 5 persons per 200 newsgroups react I will receive $15,625,00! With an original investment of only $6.00! AMAZING! When your name is no longer on the list, you just take the latest posting in the newsgroups, and send out another $6.00 to names on the list, putting your name at number 6 again. And start posting again. The thing to remember is: do you realize that thousands of people all over the world are joining the internet and reading these articles everyday?, JUST LIKE YOU are now!! So, can you afford $6.00 and see if it really works?? I think so... People have said, "what if the plan is played out and no one sends you the money? So what! What are the chances of that happening when there are tons of new honest users and new honest people who are joining the internet and newsgroups everyday and are willing to give it a try? Estimates are at 20,000 to 50,000 new users, every day, with thousands of those joining the actual internet. Remember, play FAIRLY and HONESTLY and this will really work. Don't let this exciting opportunity pass you by!:
For about a year, my wife has been going into chat rooms and neglecting reality.She chats every waking mine of the day or night.She has been dignosed manic depressive by the family Dr. and has been prescribed Prozac, but has'nt filled the rx since Feb. Our family life has gone to shit,just like our marriage. She ignores her duties as a wife and a mother,she really needs help. Whenever I try to talk to her about ANYTHING, she snaps and curses like a wild animal.
I'm addicted to sucking bars of soap especially lavender. Also I love drinking engine oil
Just testing the waters here ... been going on line since '98 and a world of secrets have opened up I never knew existed! Hence today, wanna resume a normal lifestyle without the impulsive drives to check constantly thruout the day - I told my husband I was looking into internetaddictions on line today - he said it was like having a 'Overeatersanonmymous meeting in a restaurant!' I put time controls on myself ... but I find myself at the library, on other ppl's accounts, playing games with AOL help ... to circumvent my craziness! I will lick this habit ... need to make my life more manageable .. but cant do it alone!
Let us know how to order the Internet Addiction book and audio tapes. We are on verge of divorcing, need all the help we can. We regret the day the computer came into the house. My wife is up all night talking in chat rooms and cheating there.
Let us know how to order the Internet Addiction book and audio tapes. We are on verge of divorcing, need all the help we can. We regret the day the computer came into the house. My wife is up all night talking in chat rooms and cheating there.
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I am 18. I've been on the internet since sixth grade and I still can't get off. I have alot of trouble on Usenet and I get into very hurtful fights with others. I actually enjoy websites, but I spend too much time on. I have a low attention span now and my reading skills are now very slow (it takes me three weeks to finish a book). My biggest problem is Usenet. I have been a Usenet abuser from the beginning. I'm probibly a troll to all and my worst offence is alt.tv.wings. I keep going there only to get hurt by people who think I am being immature. I get very harsh responces and it hurts me in the human flesh, although my internet persona does not show it. I got on the group because of my love for actor Thomas Haden Church who played Lowell Mather on "Wings". Because of this, I'm afraid to write via snai-mail to Mr. Church because he probibly will know me as Ange Faitore, the chick who attacked alt.tv.wings. A few hours ago I was very angry and made multiple posts, which is a big offence that can be considered abuse. I'm afraid I'll get caught and worse things will happen to me.
Please, I have a Usenet addiction above all else. Help me!!!
I attempted to actually meet a woman in real life i had chatted with on the internet
I Hate ma self because i cannot go on! I dun have real friends even if i have few but i spent all my time in chatting and to know more and more net friends,I feel ma self like being antisocial I am bulding new life in internet! I think only about having a life in internet! I dun care any longer of REAL LIFE! So who can help me...MSG ME!
Greetings...I found an advertising listing under my cb computer handle while checking google search, which is "WALLEYEEARTH" and I found it kind of slanderish to me...The ad was posted as follows.............................................................................................>>> Results from Form 1 of Page storybook.htm ... cries* I hate my life, always I wish I was dead... Email_Address: walleyeearth@yahoo.com Date: 11 Sep 2002 Time: 21:42:13 Remote User: Story. ... www.internetaddiction.com/story_log.htm - 101k============================================================
I wish this would get cleared up, because I "DO NOT" hate myself, and I certainly "DO NOT" wish that I was dead, Life is too short to have pranksters like that to bring innocent people down and slander a good name. Thank you all for taking your quality time to read this message, it is really important, my email address is open to people who wish to contact me with good things to converse about, and better ways of living. To protect and Honor all innocent requests, all email sent to this email address through the internet explorer computer email system is reviewed, but not all are answered. Any criminal actions against this workstation, people in, on, around, or at this workstation, whether the crime be local, state, federal, or international is subject to prosecution to the fullest extent of the Law. Take care, and have a nice day.
I destroyed our relationship, was careless with true love. I did part of it with a computer. But it was me. I did it. Now I live in hell. Please dont take love for granted. I only feel dispair Fuck It.
One of the more interesting and effective ways to get rid of your internet addiction is to
a) realize that a human being does not have access to worldwide information to be happy; happiness is more of a personal thing;
b) unplug the computer from the jack/cable and after cancelling the hosting provider buy something like a bike (always wear your helmet for safety :)
If you feel that internet has supplanted some part of reality for you, by all means seek professional help if you feel you absolutely cannot control yourself for access.
hello there! I dont no really if i WAS addicted, i think i was. I Chatted with people I played games etc. I think i was online almost all day after school. I'm 16 now and im not really addicted. I'm writing a report about addictions and i came to this site. I red a few storries here and I don't know if this helps a bit but...
If your partner has an internet problem give him social boosts or let him/her do things she/he likes. Go out, meet friends etc. helps alot.
screw something up on the computer, without a connection he has got nothing to do on the computer. WHen I knew i couldn't do anything when the connection was lost someway , i just did something else, something social most of the time.
I don't know how to deal with cyber sex & partners over the internet and stuff. Cuz the people i met on the internet or mostly my friends.
just remember there are always things more fun than internet! I see most problems are with chatting etc. , talk about it, don't fight him/her. ask him/her why she/he does it. tell him/her that she can talk about it with you and things like that give him/her other things to do that he/she likes
i dont know if i can really help somebody with this and sorry for my bad english anyway, good luck...
there's a bigger world than the internet!
hello there! I dont no really if i WAS addicted, i think i was. I Chatted with people I played games etc. I think i was online almost all day after school. I'm 16 now and im not really addicted. I'm writing a report about addictions and i came to this site. I red a few storries here and I don't know if this helps a bit but...
If your partner has an internet problem give him social boosts or let him/her do things she/he likes. Go out, meet friends etc. helps alot.
screw something up on the computer, without a connection he has got nothing to do on the computer. WHen I knew i couldn't do anything when the connection was lost someway , i just did something else, something social most of the time.
I don't know how to deal with cyber sex & partners over the internet and stuff. Cuz the people i met on the internet or mostly my friends.
just remember there are always things more fun than internet! I see most problems are with chatting etc. , talk about it, don't fight him/her. ask him/her why she/he does it. tell him/her that she can talk about it with you and things like that give him/her other things to do that he/she likes
i dont know if i can really help somebody with this and sorry for my bad english anyway, good luck...
there's a bigger world than the internet!
A friend of mine is on the net from 10 am to 4 am every day but wont admit he has a problem no one else is allowed on the net and if we ask if we can have a turn he just says he doesn't know and continues wht he was doing. We can't get on the phone but if he's expecting a call from a net-buddy we have to wait two hours to use of even go near the phone. HELP!!!!
Husband spends 5-6 hours a night looking at different porno flicks from couples, to singles, to gays, to young children. Dont like it one bit. We have a great sex life so whats up with this?? I dont like it at all.
Please send ordering info for 2 of the internetaddiction books, one for each of us. we are on the verge of divorce and seeking any help we can for internet addiction
Lost Faith
How does one lose faith in our government and our courts system?
Let me tell you a story about what is happening to me now. This is
a story about a man who strives to be fair ,honest and most of all
have a belief and trust in my God. A man wanting to live the American
dream.
Ever since I was at the age of 17, I worked so hard to be a provider.
To do all the things I was raised and taught to do. Little did I
know what my life had enstore for me.
I married this women That is from Geneva county, ALDue to the
constant incapatibility we got a divorce.
Now during this time of marriage I was suppose to have fathered 3 children.
Some few years had gone by and I went to the Urologist here in my town.
As the doctor was giving me my examination he brought to my attention
that I had a disease to the testicles. The doctor then went on to tell me
that this disease strikes in puberty and can sterilizes a man. When the doctor
told me this I said "How can this be, I’m suppose to have 3 children?"The doctor looked at me and said " YOU TELL ME".
Needless to say I felt very betrayed and totally in shock.
At this point I knew I had to have a semen test just to see if what the doctor
Had said was true. Sure enough the test results came back and the doctor said
QUOTE Doctor said YOU COULDNT GET A FLEA PREGNANT' UNQUOTE.
Now with this information, I gave it a lot of thought. I felt I needed to know the truth.
Searching my heart of hearts knowing this had to be done.
SO I DECIDED
I decided to call my x-wife, who fled to Alaska with the 3 kids, and ask her to
have these test done(Under the advice of my first Lawyer).
She screamed and yelled and said NEVER!!
I dont know about you but doesn’t that mean automatic guilt? What would she have to hide if they were mine?
Anyhow, She hung up the phone before saying I would never see the kids again.
So now I was faced with retaining a lawyer to test myself and the kids.
I hired an Attorney here in Houston County, Dothan Alabama, who I had total faith in,
My first mistake.
Court date finally came almost 2 years later in Geneva County.
I finally felt I would get my test and know the truth. So I thought.
My lawyer at the time presented my tests.
I had concrete test, and letter stating from doctor that I would need medical help in order to
(maybe ) Father a child. What do you think happened?
Let me tell you. Judge said NO.
Only if I could prove I was sterile at the time of conception.
How could he say no when in 1988 congress passed a law mandating ALL
states to provide paternity testing at the request of ANY party.
example: SECTION 26-17A-1 saying: provides ,in pertent part upon petition of defendant in a Paternity proceeding where the defendant HAS BEEN DECLARED FATHER , the case can be reopened if there is scientific evidence presented by the defendant that his is not the father court shall admit into any.
How could a judge be above the law?
As I move on this women decides to have revenge on me and ruin my whole life. Well I have a family of my own to take care of and the courts are going to allow her to do this to me.
So tell me, how does one lose faith?
When the system fails more then it succeeds.
I don’t feel I am getting treated fair. This is my x-wife’s town where every one
Knows every one, and I have no chance at fairness. They wont let me move it
out of Geneva County, so fairness is out of the question for me.
The Alabama codes and sections say’s I have rights, but how can that be? There
is no justice for me.
If those children are not mine doesn’t that mean this women lied to the courts in our divorce?
Doesn’t that mean she lied to me fooled me into believing the kids were mine?
Isn’t that lieing under God? I just don’t get it.
I would think the courts would want to stop the deceiving and uphold the law.
Lets flip the coin a second. If a women became pregnant and pointed the
finger and said a man was the father of her baby, What would happen?
I'll tell you. He would be made to take a paternity test.
So how is this diff. for me?
I have proof that raises reason to believe of infidelity and lies.
All I know as women they know they give birth for a man it’s a little different.
Do I not have the right to know if those children are mine?
Do not the children have a right to know?
Doesn’t the real father have a right to know he has children?
Have you ever heard of Dead Beat Dads? well ,what about those mothers?
What about those mothers that deceive and break her vows under God ?
It’s a shame even though we have somewhat of laws to help men like me they
are not enforced.
Can you see where the faith can just leave a mans heart?
Are you proud to be an American?
I used to be once.
By Tim Daw from Alabama who will never see justice..
There is a crime out there and it is called Paternity Fraud. Most men feel ashamed facing the truth. But for me I have to know.
Dont let this happen to your son or uncle or friend
Thank you http:www.paternityfraud.com
A woman I have been involved with has recently almost two months ago become sexually addicted, cyber sex addiction. At the outset of her first coming online again she got involved in cyber sex and her addiction started right away and at that outset of this she stopped our relationship. It has only been more recently that I have come to know for sure about her addiction. We lived in different countries but had plans to live together and thoughts of marriage. She has visited me twice and stayed about a month each time. After her last visit to me I was to travel to her and we where going to live together. I kept changing my date for going to be with her for about 3 months which bothered her quite a lot. For those months we talk 'every single day' for about 1-3 hours a day. But because of how it was distrubing her my not getting there yet I told her we should discontinue the relationship because of how it was bothering her my not yet getting there. I said this at that time only because I was a bit frustrated myself at the moment because of my situation of not getting there yet. But for sure wanted to continue our relationship and intended to tell her this. However only a few days later when I spoke with her she told me she was now online a lot meeting different people, men. praticulary on icq which she had never used before then. Immediately after she started online she did not want me to come visit her to live together as we've been planning or to visit her at all. I told her I was coming anyway and she told me can I handle her flirting, online and on the phone. (At this time I had no idea of how fast she got cyber sex addiction and I didn't know anything like this existed.) Not knowing her condition at that time I thought visiting her would be helpful in resolving things between us. I then traveled for the usa to her country to visit her but I was met with resistance from her and her not wanted me to stay at her apartment(which I understand now, because my present in her apartment would interfer with her cybersex online activities). So I left that same day and have been in a neighbooring country, where I am now, exploring something concerning my work. Since that time she had been coming online in different alias names contacting me. Which I know without a single doubt it is her and I have confronted one of these alias online more recently and she became very hostile and aggressive, and in denial. But after a long confrontation with her alias she began 'on and off' admitting it was her and admitted to her cybersex life in an attacking way, but then saying it was not her.***** Here is a qoute of something she said then: "I had this guy last night who was so good, he rocked my world. I had to clean my chair when I was done. it was like he was right there. he is so sensitive to my needs. he knows just where to to touch me, like you never did. and his body is so much better than yours. his dick is at least three inches longer too." (Though our sex life together during the time we were together was quite fulfilling for the both of us.) But at the same time during this 'talk' she was going back and forth in admitting it(this alias) was her. At a couple of different times she said(I quote): " you know, you're really not going about this very well, if you really wanna stop someone with an addciton, you have to confront them face to face. just a little advice for whenever you actually talk to this linda person." Also, "I feel sorry for this Linda person. If you really cared about her you would have walked up to her and told her. I am sure that would have done a lot better. now, you've wasted all this time on me, and I am on a different continent, that you're not gonna try to help her." I am wondering here if she(the real woman behind the alias that i've been involved with) is trying to get me to come in person to deal with her about this addiction? After this confrontation online the next day her a letter telling her not to contact me again until she is ready to stop her addiction and at that I would be willing to come there to help. In this letter I explained to her what I had learned in my research about cybersex addiction and how it affects the person and the during cyber sex the brain and body produces strong chemicals that the person in fact becomes addicted to. I also sent her the website of a bullentin board for people recovering from cybersex addiction. In this letter I told her I would not contact her again after a week time if she has not contacted me ready to move towards ending the addiction. Before that week was up I sent her a second letter just to make sure that she still knew how I feel and felt about her and the strong feelings I had about our relationship. But at the same time I wrote that she can contact me 'only' when she is ready to end the addiction and that I would come there then if she wants. It's been about a week and a half since she would have received the second letter. I have not heard from her to date. (Though a day or two after would have received my 2nd letter I noticed one of her online alias wrote in their profile she was, 'sorry to everyone', 'chatting was addicting and I am going to remove icq from my computer for sure this time'. And the main alias that same day removed all information from her profile. The following day however she replace all the same info back in her profile. And the other alias has removed all what she wrote in her profile about removing icq and seems to still be there.) If anyone would like to talk with me online or write to me about this I would happy to hear from you. My icq# is #172861142; yahoo messenger: sunshineman_3 .
My husband is a software engineer so it has always been necessary to have computers in our home. I have seen a few pornographic photos before but today I logged on to his computer and found typed messages from women in his instant messenger box. I know they couldn't have this address unless he had been chatting online with them, this explains the hours he spends in the basement on his computer. His behavior is different, he is distant and we already had problems in our marriage, I am really tempted to cheat on him and then possibly break things off.
I was on the internet for 5 days straight, sleeping at the keyboard doing instant messaging, then my wife told me that I had changed and she didn't love me anymore... I got off the internet and cried for a further 5 days straight, when I came to, I found my wife on the internet... She still loved me but told me that she didn't so she would get a chance online... *cries* I hate my life, always I wish I was dead...
The computer and the internet is a giant step up. Sort of like around a quarter century ago or later when the citizens band radio's (cb's) were popular with the hillbillies, today the internet is the popular thing. I call it a cb computer internet hillbilly station, or it could be called an internet cb computer station, or however you would arrange the name of the thing, anyway that I look at it, it is always still hillbilly to me.
I have been reading the stories posted here, and see myself in a lot of them. Well, the old me, anyway.
I was a single mom, living in a very small town, with virtually no form of recreation (no YWCA, no malls, movie theaters, etc.).
The internet became my "link to the world." Like so many here, the first thing I would do in the morning is log on, carrying on IM conversations, or visiting my favorite chat room.
I had several "online" relationships. Trouble was, I was honest to a fault, but the men involved (I later found out) were much older, married, with kids, and it was all just a game to them...a salve for their ego. Talk about feeling like you've wasted your life!
My son and my family begged me to spend more time with them, and less time online...but these were my FRIENDS...they understood me.......boy, was I in deep!
I got married a few months ago. Luckily, we spend virtually NO time on the computer at home, unless we need it for research. After having been away from the chat sites for so long, I revisited them, out of morbid curiosity, I guess. I never thought I'd find the same old people...but I did...three years later, there they were...still chatting, still lying. I'm so glad I"m out of it.
It wasn't easy. At times, I felt almost physical withdrawal symptoms. But believe me, it's worth it. Living on the internet is not living at all, regardless of what someone tries to tell you.
Please don't be a dope like me and fall for the lies people tell you online.
I'd be more than happy to correspond with anyone needing support for this growing problem.
My nane is gene and I think I am addicted to the net. It started 2 yrs ago when my ex wife bought me a computer. I was on disibality at the time and spent 12 to 16 hours a day on the net. My wife got fed up and gave me a choice, the net or her and I picked the net. It has gotten worse now. I live for the net. I cant wait to get home at lunch to go on line and when I get home at nite I go on line. My kids hate what I have become and I had the most beautiful girl friend that I met on line and we spent time together in June and she was here for 10 days and broke up with me because of the net. My life has become a total wreck and I dont sleep well at nite, I dont eat right and on weekends all I want to do is go on line. I need help and I am scared because my life is spinning out of control.I am setting up counseling but Im not sure how to kick the addiction.
I would like to order The Internet Addiction Help Book. Please send me ordering information, price, and what other products you have for family help with internet addictions. My home is breaking apart from overuse of the computer by my son and husband. I'm seeking a divorce if the computer doesn't go. What I'm going through is very bad.
Thankyou.
sleepless in miami
sickinmiami@yahoo.com
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It started back in 1995 when I was working at a place that let you use their internet connection to surf the web. I thought to myself this is a new thing and I'm going to learn it. I was already good at computers, but the net was anew thing. At one point it got so bad that I actually got a copy of the keys cut to the building that the computer was in so I could sneak in there at night and use the machine. One night I was on the net for 10 hours straight! Obviously with the increasing phone bill the company knew something was up and moved the computer away from the building and started charging people for using it. By that time I had left the company and to fuel my addiction I started going round my Dad's house to try and convince him that he needed a computer. Eventually he did buy one and I would go round there all the time and use it. I then registered a .com; which was a good excuse to use my Dad's machine so I could update my site, but I would spend hours on it doing nothing, but general surfing. As soon as I was finished surfing I would quickly say goodbye to my Dad and leave without even having a chat with him about anything else I had been doing in my life at that time. I then bought a computer for home and started using it all the time until I recieved a huge phone bill and I knew I had to cut down a bit. I then stumbled accross "free internet" and that was it! I would arrive home from work and switch my computer on and stay on it until 10pm at night. Friday's I would stay on it until the early hours of the morning and then get up at 6am on the weekends and go on the net all day. I've now started to not want to go to social evenings with family and friends because my addiction is so bad. I've also got a partner who does put up with a whole lot. There have been many rows about the time I spend on the internet and it has started to create a few problems between us. For a while we came to a comprimise whereby I would only go on the net at the weekends, but it soon spiralled back into me using on weekdays as well. I have now registered another .com and I am working hard on that. I have also managed to cut down my internet usage to a couple of days a week and sometimes at the weekend or when my partner is working and I am at home. It is creating a few problems without me going on the net as I am sometimes getting anxious because I think I might be missing something or there might be an important email for me to answer. Deep down I know there isn't anything I am missing and the emails can wait until another day, but it's very hard. I have a wonderful job and a wonderful partner, but it is very hard to keep off the net. I suppose a good thing has happened at work as they have given me full net access to use during lunchtimes so I can get my fill at work and then I don't have to go on my machine at home in the evening's as much. It is getting better and I am not as addicted as I used to be a few years ago, but I do need to cute down. A tip for anyone else who is like me, take it one step at a time and cut down slowly. I suppose it must be like smoking or drinking, you can't cut it out straight away, but if you do it slowly it isn't such a bad thing. Not only that if you have a partner it puts a huge strain on your relationship. I've been lucky, but it was a bit close on some occasions on us splitting up. I hope this helps someone to help themselves and to realise that Internet Addiction is a real thing and they are not alone.
I guess I started when we first got our PC as a christmas present from my parents in 95. I was 15 at the time. I was pretty lonely to begin with-if I did have friends, they were few and very important to me. My parents thought it was a good idea to get AOL, it seemed extremely user friendly and that it would help with homework etc. AOL is too user friendly. I soon discovered chat rooms and what IMs were. I soon discovered what it meant when someone would ask you for cybersex.
I realise I have a problem, I just realised that I was looking at myself when I was looking for information on policing the Internet. I stumbled on Internet Addiction three days ago. By far, the problem was alot worse between 95 and 2000. It got me into so much trouble and has affected me in so many ways.
I realise that I had some emotional problems when I firsy signed on at 15, I almost certainly came away with a helluva lot more at 22. Its been 7 years, and all I have managed to do is get in some sort of control of what I do online. From 15-19 I had cyber sex, mostly with online buddies. My parents became suspicious of what I was doing at around the age of 17. They confronted me all the time, but I flately denied I was doing it and that I had a problem.
For someone that was a virgin, I knew a helluva lot about sex and alot of what I knew was through chat. I have to admit, initatially my friend and I did it because we thought it was highly amusing that a guy (we assumed that it was a guy our age on the other end) could actually get off on us saying "oh baby! oh baby! You make me puurrrr!" But later, I guess for me I developed this sense of commitment, that I would be letting my buddy down if I didnt.
Pedofiles love the internet, they love the kids that they find online. Dirty old men comb the teen and young people's chatrooms. I was certainly no stranger to getting a message by someone who was in his thirties asking if I like to masturbate etc. Some of them wanted to meet. When I was 18, I had this 50 something year old offer to pay me one million US if I would have him a daughter!
I was very stupid. My last year in highschool was absolutely a failure and I didnt care. My life was the Internet. My friends were the Internet. It was MY computer. If my mother said no, I couldnt go online, I would throw a fit. I would be arguementive, hysterical and physically upset. At one point, I was violent towards my sister. She said something about my beloved internet and I punched her so hard that as she was running up the stairs, she tripped and fell.
All i cared about was the computer. I fell hopelessly in love with a guy online named Ray. When he said terrible things to me, making me cry even though it was online, I finally told him that I would prefer we werent together, but remained friends. I was devasted when he said no. This threw my senior year up the creek without a paddle.
I blamed my parents especially my mother for the problems that I was going through. Sure, the emotional problems of being molested at 13 and being told I was a liar by my mother and teachers didnt help. But my mother told the school that I was into pornography, that Ray was violent and abusive. She failed to meantion the reason behind my behavior and that was her.
I have no one else but myself for getting into all over this mess. I was sexually assaulted by an older man who lied to me online saying he was 23 when I was 19. I guess I needed to feel like someone cared about me and he seemed so sympathetic. I later found out he had a fiancee (who he met online) he was 45 and he was a pedofile.
I cant believe that I have been so stupid, yet I cant stay away. Although I have minimised who I talk to (those being friends only from real life) and to a point, the time I use, I still have a problem.
I went to my university's student services to get a referral which they didnt have because its a fairly new thing. I went to a welfare agencies, and nothing. I guess I need a referral from someone tthat knows of any organisations in Victoria, Australia.
Thanks for your time-
I bought my first computer three years ago, and I have been hooked ever since. Everything in my life has changed as a result of this addiction.
When I first wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is turn on is the computer. I do not get coffee, dressed, or even tell my kids hello. Then I log in and just surf... I do not accomplish anything. I am student in Microsoft and C++, and I am falling behind. That is ironic because I am falling behind on what I am addicted to in the first place.
My job performance has fallen, I do not visit or spend time with my friends or family. When I go out, shop, do my work, or whatever else I need to do during the day all I ever think about is logging on again and cannot think about anything else. I try getting the thoughts out of my head, but the withdrawl away from the computer gets worse. These symptoms include sweats, obsessive thoughts, shaking, "butterflies" (the kind you get when you anticipate when you want something), and even anger.
When I log in, I get a euphoria like I am the king of the world and I am in full control. I know I can be anybody I want to be, do anything I want to do, and say whatever I want to say without cosequence. I surf aimlessly, chat, play with applications, play a game, download music, and read information. Oh how I love the information. I read about the news, jokes, facts, and other stuff that does not pertain to my life or real life whatsoever... it does not help for school, and I am loving every second of it. Meanwhile, my kids are being neglected, the housework is not getting done, I am not spending time with friends, God, and most of all, my family. I know this in the back of my head when doing it, but I do not care while I am getting my "fix." After I ger my "fix" then the cycle is completed... I feel guilty, paranoid, depressed, angry and am very apologetic. I have told my family before I would stop, but now they do not believe me... and why should they? I do not keep my promises. I even lie because of the computer. My life is in a downspiral and cannot help myself.
I know I need help, and I am addicted to the computer. Help me, please.
My husband is always on-line playing a game called Unreal and or on the internet downloading game maps and or finding out more information on the game. He does this every night when we are all a sleep or when I fall asleep, he is on-line "so-called" caring for the chidren. He dose not go one that often when I am awake. But I know he is ON because new maps are downloaded and the Unreal game CD is put in the CD drive. This is driving me crazy because I don't get any help with the children and I feel like I am doing it all. When I am awake he shows me that he is a hard worker and is not doing things on the computer but I know he is up til 4:00am playing games and or searching on-line or talking to email. Then he wakes up tired or says he has a sleep disorder, because he is also falling asleep when I am awake and caring for the children. I don't know what to do.
My husband is always on-line playing a game called Unreal and or on the internet downloading game maps and or finding out more information on the game. He does this every night when we are all a sleep or when I fall asleep, he is on-line "so-called" caring for the chidren. He dose not go one that often when I am awake. But I know he is ON because new maps are downloaded and the Unreal game CD is put in the CD drive. This is driving me crazy because I don't get any help with the children and I feel like I am doing it all. When I am awake he shows me that he is a hard worker and is not doing things on the computer but I know he is up til 4:00am playing games and or searching on-line or talking to email. Then he wakes up tired or says he has a sleep disorder, because he is also falling asleep when I am awake and caring for the children. I don't know what to do.
we got our computer about 2 years ago and he lives on it even when he is off from work on weekends when could spend time together. Is has cause a many a problem in our home life. he enjoies the sex sites and to my way of thinking tha iss wrong. to me it is like cheaping on me.i have told him how i felt about it,but seam to go in ear out the other.I'm at my wites end. i'm every hurt and just sick about the whole mess. i felt i'm losting gound in my marriage fast he is to be 45 in July. i could go on for ever about all of this,but you get the picture of my problem at hand. willow
My internet addiction story started in high school. I began getting interested in online porn because the university nearby had a high speed connection. From there it escalated to news, irc, etc. etc. The nature of my addiction basically insured that I had no friends, or was wary of becoming friends with those I thought knew about my secret. This continued through 4 years of college. Since I used general access computers, I was constantly erasing and building up my "collection". I knew there was never any value in doing it. In high school I was the top of my class: 3.9, 1590 SAT. In college I barely scraped by, doing good work infrequently. I feel I have wasted some of my talent as a musician and philosopher surfing internet porn. Here are a few observations about why the internet is addictive: 1. The internet is a modified reality. Unlike drugs, the internet itself as a medium is not neces- sarily addictive. One can have perfectly positive experiences of the internet, especially when trying to locate information. However when the internet "poses" as an experience, and not a source of information, then it becomes addictive. Porn is particularly likely to become an "imitation" experience because our most basic desires are titillated by it. Why is an "imitation" reality addictive? This will be addressed later. 2. The internet is "self-forgetful". The internet itself has no memory. When a user logs on to a chat room, it is only the people in the chat room who might recognize him. The chat room itself has no physical reality which might suggest that human beings "inhabit" it. Thus, it cannot suffer abuse, neglect, or otherwise reflect the results of the addiction on the addict. The inter- net never tells you that it is sick of being abused. The same could be true of the body of an addict of traditional drugs, under certain circumstances. The body of an addict constantly erases the notion that the addiction is destructive to it. The addict forgets the true nature of the habit each time he/she needs a "hit". To stop being addicted, the drug or internet addict must realize (remember) the true nature of the addiction in the midst of needing a hit, or otherwise avoid the source of the addiction. It is imperative that the addict have a degree of choice in the matter, or they will return to the addiction when given the opportunity. 3. The internet is a "box". When you are browsing the internet, you are automatically looking at either images or text. Ultimately even the images are textual--since they are encoded information. As a result, the internet only partially represents reality. For the most part it sharply limits the resolution with which one can have an experience using it. When I am chatting with an internet partner, I only have their words to tell me how they feel about me. I don't have expressions. Even when (through webcam) I can see faces, I see only what the camera tells me--and what the webcam user on the other side chooses to reveal. Most importantly, however, the feelings and experiences that result from the internet can be nothing more than "boxed" versions of the real thing. When our hopes and/or deepest desires are invested in a "box", then we become the box itself. People who surf the internet compulsively for years can become like caricatures of themselves, or worse, inverted, twisted versions.
Finally, to summarize: The internet is a "modified" reality which is self-forgetting, and limiting in its ability to render reality. Addictive behavior is particularly likely when this modified reality is forced to serve as a complete, or continuous reality. We often choose a limited reality over an unlimited one because it serves the interests of the ego. The ego always wants to be "the same" regardless of what is happening. It is invested in maintaining the boundaries of identity, and all of the emotional cues which accompany past or present experiences. When the opportunity to engage in addiction presents itself, the ego says "do it", because doing it has become a part of your self-limiting concept of identity. In order to overcome addiction, what is needed is to overcome the ego, and the aspects of addiction I outlined above. Instead of having "fake" reality, choose real reality. Instead of forgetting constantly, choose to always remember the truth. And finally, instead of being bound by "identity", become freed by a continous and changing experience. Experience is the only non-addictive substance. When had truly and to the fullest, it is so varied that no one aspect of it is there long enough, to cause addiction.
I used to be #1 student in my class. I was also great at Soccer and skiing. Girls would ask me out often. I became addicted to on-line gaming. I just stopped doing everything else in my life except gaming. My only social relationships are now the ones I have with on-line friends
Hi my name is Genevieve
I am a recovered internet addict. I went cold turkey. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. Internet chat rooms took over my life literally. I was like in a world of my own. I was spending 6 and half hours, five days a week on the damn thing...WHAT A WASTE that was.
If you need any more information/support you can email me.
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My husband ia an internet addict and talks to strange men thinking it's fun and fantasy when in reality it's real women, real bonds forming and a reality. He gets hostile at me for saying this and thinks I'm taking it out of proportion.
After reading all your posts with people that have the same problem, I realize I'm normal, he's a sleaze and he's history if he don't stop.
That's my cure for the problem, out he goes.
I don't need someone reversing it on me. All you guys reading this should know that and stop reversing the situation.
It's not fun or fantasy to talk to the opposite sex and form online bonds, it's reality and a hard one at that, that you'll wake up to when you lose your home, lose your family and be with only your online friends.
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We need every solution out there to keep our family together. The computer ruined our
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HELP WE NEED THE INTERNET HELP BOOK AS FAST AS POSSIBLE OR WE WILL END UP IN A DIVORCE.
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My husband and I have been married only a year. He plays a game called Ever Quest, and that is where he spends most of his time. I feel as if the computer is more important than I am, and I feel as if he loves the computer more than he does me. I have tried numerous times to get him to get off of the computer, but he just gets angry at me and screams at me that there isn't a problem.
I am so tired of seeing the back of my husbands head, and I do love him, but I don't know how much longer I can live my life like this.
He is a computer technitian for a bank, and one would think that he would get tired of seeing computers. Nope, not him...he comes home from work and jumps right onto that computer.
We never go anywhere together any more, or do anything. It has gotten so bad that it is involving more than just our day lives.
I just wish there was something that I could do, I don't want to see our marriage go down the drain, but it seems that it is going to go there anyways, especially if he refuses to help!
Someone please help my husband and I!
Name: Mike Age: 14 You people are very very weak.
I am a recovered internet addict. It took awhile but with the help of my husband i pulled through.
If anyone would like more information/support you can contact on the above email.
REMEMBER THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.
when i wandered into this new realm of "life" i had no idea of the impact it
would soon have upon my familie's life. i quickly graduated from pet chat rooms to adult
chat rooms..to a bdsm server. that was just a bit over two years ago. i am severly
addicted to irc. two years ago in june i totalled my car from lack of sleep due to irc. a
year ago in january i was fired from my job as a result of irc. i divorced my husband as a
result of a "person" i met on irc. my child has suffered as a result of irc. he
is the one that has paid the most i am ashamed to say. i let it break up a home. i took
every moment possible to be on irc when i could have been with him. he hates the puter.
not a day goes by that i don't sincerely wish i had never heard of the internet. it's hold
is so all powerful that i grieve for the cost of all that my child and i have paid as a
result of my being here. i wish i could turn back the hands of time..but i cannot. i would
give much to be free of the demon that possesses me.
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i am a recovered Internet Chat Room addict. If anyone would like any advice: on the addiction or how to catch a cheating spouse please contact green54@start.com.au or the email below.
I put my husband through hell as the result of my foolishness and it is only now that I
realise what i almost lost. It was my fortune that my husband loved me enough to get
background checks on people that I was online with and the results of those checks were
horrifying. Unaware to myself he monitored every activity I undertook on the computer,
gave me enough rope and then pulled me in before it was too late. We are now getting on
with our lives and trying to put the hurts behind us.
Please add me to your mailing list and send me an order form to order Your Internet Addiction Recovery Book. We need it here badly for any tips you can offer. Our home life is in jeopardy because of Chat Rooms. Please rush. Thankyou.
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My husband chats to women in chat rooms on one of the highest profile online services. He gets hostile when I look to see what he's doing. He is addicted to the computer and ignoring his family and home. The repercussions of his behavior have been felt by every member of our household in one way or another. The children are not happy because I'm not happy and I'm not happy because he is addicted to Chat Rooms and cheating by getting emotionally involved with strangers, women in particular. When someone is in the middle of this, you cannot reason with them. I'm unhappy and cannot take care of the kids properly. We no longer spend quality time together or have fun. Before purchasing our computer we did. Computers are a distraction because unlike television, you cannot watch and laugh together. It's to each his own and that is the beginning of the breakdown of the family, the straw that broke the camel's back.
I am open to any suggestions. I would also like to order your Internet Addiction Recovery Book. Please e-mail me with how to do so.
Thankyou. I also welcome all email suggestions and support from people in the same situation.
Thankyou for giving us a place to ventilate our emotions on the web to others in the same position, feeling the same emotions of the Internetaholic, the nightmare new addiction
We need help !
E-Mail: usatoday48@hotmail.com
I need support
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Please send me ordering information too on How to Overcome Internet Addiction. I will
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Good morning, ladies and gentleman. I am most GLAD to be afforded this opportunity to make a post here. Wow...it seems to me that there are ALOT of folks that have been afflicted with this "Internet Addiction" problem. I have taken the opportunity to speak with a PROFESSIONAL mental health expert on this very subject of "on-line" chatting, gaming, love affairs, gambling and so forth. I thought I might share abit of knowledge that I gained from what little bit of research that I have done on "this" subject~~~>> :-o) :-o)
It is my personal belief that there, MOST ASSUREDLY, exists a BIG problem with some of these dysfunctions. I could not help but notice some of the great statements that other folks have posted here, along with the posts that are nothing but "negative". At any rate, I happen to know, that the MENTAL HEALTH COMMUNITY is taking a good, close LOOK at these "issues"....but it is my understanding that "research" has only been conducted for about 10 years now and what the Mental Health folks are trying to determine is what the "Long Term" side effects of all this stuff will be. I am SURE, that there are folks running around who "think" they have all the answers to these kinds of addictions, but I dont think ANYBODY has all the answers to these kinds of dysfunctions or whatever here...
My "take" on ALOT of these problems is the FACT that I believe that computers which employ the Internet "can" be addictive because of several factors. First of all....by NATURE, most of us Humans are "curious" and have a thirst for knowledge. Secondly, with alot of the newer and better Video and Audio displays, I believe that these computers are **ADDICTIVE** because of these two factors alone. Because the "Internet" is only about 20 years old, it is my "thoughts" that ALOT of this "attraction" will PASS just as soon as the novelty wears off. HOWEVER, until people FINALLY realize that they could find themselves in a "bad situation".....the BEST course of action is to "PULL THE PLUG" on your CPU, if thats the only way you can break FREE of this problem. If you take a good HARD LOOK at the internet as a whole (and I mean ALL the aspects you can learn about), I am sure you will soon realize that this communications format is FAST becoming a media GEARED to SELL you junk that you "could" live without PLUS there are ALOT of business concerns that want YOUR attention, therefore "they" are always competing for your TIME and MONEY. I am sure that alot of you folks dont "SEE" the internet in this light, but thats OK with me.
My best ADVISE for anybody, is to LEARN the GOOD aspects of the Internet and NOT fall into the many "land mines" that exist in cyber space. I really cannot think of much more to post here, because most of the "BAD ASPECTS" of the Internet seem to be quite evident here. Because most of us KNOW that the internet "can" be quite addictive, my best advise is to employ some logical form of **TIME MANAGEMENT** so that you can LIMIT your "on-line" time and spend the rest of your FREE HOURS doing stuff that you KNOW you need to get done. There is "NO SALVATION" from these digital boxes, unless one takes CONTROL over these contraptions, along with these bizzare internet dysfunctions. I thank you for your TIME....because it IS your TIME, so use it wisely ~~~~>> :-o) :-o)
THANK YOU: D.B.
Feet like wet blankets: ALL IS FORGIVEN!
I ride the post! I closes my world like a humping turtle!
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Hi everyone. If you dont mind I'd rather not say my name. Anyway, they say the first
step to beating an addiction is to admit that I have one, so I guess that writing to you
guys has gotta be a good start. I'm 6 years old and live in condo in Tampa Bay, and have
been addicted to the internet ever since my mama started going out for weeks at a time and
leaving me and me 2 year old sister by ourselves. I was real lonely and so I would go to
lots of different fun sites to keep me from slitting my wrists. I would try to forget how
I'd been rejected by my daddy ( he ran away when I was born cause he thought I was so ugly
he was ashamed.) Then when mommy started going asway too, I felt really sad and so tried
to take me mind off it all by looking at all the pictures of naked ladies. Ever since ME
and the computer have a really special relationship. I can't leave it alone without
screaming and beating up Janey (thats my sister) Help me before I kill again.........
You people are funny if you had any common sence you would just pull the plug out from the computer to get your husband in bed. Now for the other people that have 16 and 17 year old daughters and sons that are on the internet all the time. How about you incourage it becasue the net and computers are the #1 and #2 jobs in the future maybe not chatting but networking and webdeisgn and stuff like that is maybe get them a couple books so they can get started. I know that because i am a 18 year old that got involved in computers and the internet i am online maybe 10-12 hours of the day and i got a job for 9$ an hour doing webdesign while my friends pump gas for 5.45 or 6 dollars.
Web geeks Rule
I have a program at a cost that I can download to your computer to catch cheating spouses and also protect children.
The cost of this service is $235.00 and the program will photograph everything that goes through your computer every 30 seconds. This cost is alot cheaper than losing everything due to not knowing.
I also have follow up investigations.
Contact David on (03) 880 15659
I live in Melbourne, Australia but will give free advice to overseas clients.
Have a great New Year!!
David Green
Hi,
I am a recovering Internet Chat Room Addict.
If anyone would like any advice or suggestions you can contact me on genevievegreen@hotmail.com.au.
I believe that reading books or talking to person/persons who have not experienced Internet addiction can Addiction can be of some help, but nothing beats talking to someone who has actually been through the experience as I have.
Genevieve Green
Genevieve Green
I live in Melbourne, Australia and my new job is to download a program from the States that photographs everything that goes onto your computer every 30 seconds. This is for reasons such as cheating spouses and protecting children from predators. The cost of my services is $235.00 Australian and the program remains on your computer UNDEDECTED and at your beg and call.
Call David on 03 880 15659 or from overseas 0011 61 3 88015659
I have been a internet addict for two years. I was 14 1/2, almost 15 years old in summer 1998. I got webtv because I heard of so much on the web, and I couldn't afford a PC. I was learning so much about the web, that I forgot about my real life. First, it was talkcity chatrooms, then it was web surfing and printing stuff off the web(no way I couldn't download nothing, because webtv can't download). Then, in March '00, I got sick of webtv, and expand my internet addiction - I got a computer for $499.00, and I have been happy, and hooked on the internet at fast speed again!
The web destory my grades at school - I use to make A's and B's, now my grades wasn't nothing but F's, because I didn't came to school, I was at home trapped on the web. Two years later, I'm still addicted to the internet. Forget real life, without my computer, I'm lost and sad. Therer's nothing on tv to watch in real life to watch, have to send a snail mail letter, talk on the telephone, etc.
I'm a junior in HS - but I'm going to pcdi pretty soon, and get my HS diploma at home through the mail, so it will be more web surfing until I feel like logging off for me!
This is a real true story! And as moer internet addicts don't know, I still know the
date, it's December 25, 2000...Merry Christmas, folks!
Has this site or others like it ever really helped anyone dealing with the pain of
living with an internet addict? About two months ago, I discovered my spouse's
"other" on-line life. I feel crushed and betrayed. The innocent trust of our
relationship has been tarnished, perhaps beyond repair. I find that I can forgive, but
forgetting is much harder .....
hi there my name is amanda and i an an internet addict! You know my friends and i used
to laugh at that like it was saying to a group of alcoholics anonomous we were addicted to
alcohol, but after reading your stories and coming to the realization myself a week or two
ago i realize it is not a laughing matter! i am only 22yrs old and have been on the net
for 6 months now and i find if i am home for the day i sit from 10am till 1am online
taking just enough time out to kiss my man hello as he walks in the door from work and
just enough time to make him dinner (and sometimes not even that leaving him to find
something for himself and sometimes even leaving it to him to make my dinner too) i find i
feel depressed when i think about my man how it must make him feel, the time i dont spend
with him, and not only do i find i have lost contact with alot of my friends and i have
noticed the weight i have put back on after successfully looking good for the first time
in 20yrs. so just for those reasons to start with i can see i need some help to stop
before my life deteriates behind my back while my head is so in depth with surfing the
web. Please send me the details about purchase of your book and your t-shirtS too as my
friends and i are starting a support group for internet addicts! Thank-you!!!
To all spouses, kids and loved pnes of an internet addict,
I recently divorced the love of my life after 9 yrs together and 3 of them as a married
couple b/c of his love for chatting all hours of the night. My main advice to all of you
is to realize that your addict is just like mine was-selfish. While I know you all say it
is hard for you to wake up alone, think about that addict and how they are not thinking of
your needs. While I wish that people could work out their differences with this addiction,
know that sometimes the best thing to do is spend time alone. I have been to therapy and
am moving on with my life. I am happier alone for now and not in house "married"
with a sppuse who does not want to spend time with me to even eat a meal. I pray that you
can work out your problems, but in the end, think of what is best for you b/c this
addiction is a tough thing to beat and something the addicted needs to want to fix. My ex
now has a girfriend from the net and she and him are happy and I will be happy again with
someone else too. Life is too short to waste with someone who does not care for you and
prefers staying online all day and more interested in stranger's problems. God bless you
all
To all spouses, kids and loved pnes of an internet addict,
I recently divorced the love of my life after 9 yrs together and 3 of them as a married
couple b/c of his love for chatting all hours of the night. My main advice to all of you
is to realize that your addict is just like mine was-selfish. While I know you all say it
is hard for you to wake up alone, think about that addict and how they are not thinking of
your needs. While I wish that people could work out their differences with this addiction,
know that sometimes the best thing to do is spend time alone. I have been to therapy and
am moving on with my life. I am happier alone for now and not in house "married"
with a sppuse who does not want to spend time with me to even eat a meal. I pray that you
can work out your problems, but in the end, think of what is best for you b/c this
addiction is a tough thing to beat and something the addicted needs to want to fix. My ex
now has a girfriend from the net and she and him are happy and I will be happy again with
someone else too. Life is too short to waste with someone who does not care for you and
prefers staying online all day and more interested in stranger's problems. God bless you
all
I used to have an internet problem,but after awhile it wasnt hard to put it aside.I had
caused problems in my marriage and am sorry for what I did.But my husband never
stopped.Between porn,chat, and online games I am at my wits end.I am 5 months pregnant,and
he works nights,so when he comes home its straight for the computer he goes.I cant sleep
at night because I worry if he is doing his same stuff he always does.It is affecting not
only my sleep but my daily life. Because I am sleeping all day. I just set and cry
everytime he gets on the computer.This has been going on for about 2 years now and has
caused many many many seperations,apparently he cares nothing for how I feel or what he is
doing to our marriage.And this is just the tip of the ice berg.What do you suggest I do???
the only way to get out of this: SUICIDE!!! GOODBYE forever
I would like to buy your 12 Step Internet Addiction Recovery Book. How do I get the
pre-release discount? How much is your I'm an Internet-a-holic T-Shirt too?
Ron here once again What I have learned about the Web is, you will find at one time you
where having so much fun doing what ever it is you do over the next, but at the end i'm
sure you will see it's alot of pain. Me my self I was really bad, I would speend up to 10
to 14 hours a day on my computer, I would do just about ever thing there was to do over
the net, there was all ways some new for me to play with, the worst thing I got into was
chat lines, WHY? you ask, well you get to know people very well over the net , and think
of them as your net frends, You will find your self wanting to know how there day went and
what was new in the life, theys chat lines are some thing to stay away from if you don't
want to get pulled into a internetaddiction. I been there and I know how there where days
when I had to chat with my online frends. Do your self a faver and stay away from the chat
lines or get out well you can, I lost ever thing around me because of my net problem I
had, I lost my girlfriend and her 3 kids that I had spent 9 years with, I no longer have
my internet problem any more, what made me get away from it was to look at what I had done
to my family I love. And what pain I had put them all thro, it's not worth losssing ever
thing. I feel bad now for my X girlfrend now as she picked up the internet addiction, and
I can see how her life is falling apart like my life did, I hope she can do something
about it befor it is to late.
i was jus a kid when i got addicted. my frenz put the pressure on me.
Fuck
Has anyone tried to regain trust with their addicted spouse on the internet? Is it
possible that quanity of on line time, quality of what is done on line with trust, and a
marriage can all be in their place? I am looking for healthy advice from those who have
been there and have worked through these difficult issues. Since the medium of the
computer makes lying and sneakiness impossible to trace what are some methods that can be
used for proof of appriate behavior other than constantly being there? Any suggestions???
Me and my computer have had a very fullfilling life together these past 2 years. I feel
that we have a really strong bond and i find myself spending all my time on her. However
my girlfriend is not amused when she finds me on it after she has called me to consume a
wholsome and nutricious meal prepared by her loving hands. I feel that food no longer has
a part in my life and my girlfriend says that i am anorexic. i don't want to eat if my
computer doesn't, we do everything together!help!
This is in regards to the Sept. 18 posting by Singedinastare. My husband found this
site yesterday and discovered my story. He was very upset because I went public with our
problem. He felt it was an inconsiderate thing for me to do. I would like to apoligize if
I offended him by airing my personal feelings on chat addiction.
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Almost anything could be the target of a pathological addiction such as computer
addiction, but most addictions usually have their origin early in a person's life, where
they can be traced to significant deprivations and conflicts. I admit that I am addicted
to computers, because I have traced it to back my child hood. As a child I did not have
the privilege of video games, but I have always used the computer to play games. This was
the first time in my life that I could play games and I loved it, but my addiction did not
stop there. I then became addicted to the Internet, and most all aspects of it, from chat
lines to the trading of pirated software. Currently I am over the video game addiction,
but it lead to a much worse addiction, because now all I use the computer for is to pirate
software. I do not even know why I pirate software, because I barely even use the pirated
software I download, because I have so much of it. And this addiction only got worse
because now I have a CD-Writer which means I have unlimited storage. The addiction that I
suffer from is classified under the category of Information Overload, because I cannot
stop getting information from the Internet. I am slowly getting over the addiction of
pirating software because each day I spend less and less time on the computer.
My wife and I have been married for 23 years, and until 9 months ago, all "was
well". I stumbled innocently into a job-related chatroom, on a large internet jobs
website. Before long, I discovered the appeal of chatting-- starting with people who tell
you what a nice guy you are, how much they appreciate your wisdom and kind words, and
provide positive reinforcement for being there in the first place. Unfortunately, I also
got in over my head, went to the far extremes, taking my laptop everywhere, staying up
late at night, logging on every weekend, and getting caught up in a larger than life
relationship with a very appealing woman. There is much, much more to this story, but
anyone who thinks it can't happen, has rocks for brains. I'm a well educated man, who was
sure it could never happen.....well, here I am. I'm fortunate, in that my wife is one of
that small percentage-- who wants to stick by me, and help me get over this nonsense. I'm
going to try like hell, not to let her down.
My life, as I knew it, and my vision of the future have crumbled around me in the space
of several months. My husband is addicted to chat. He would downsize his INSTANT MESSAGES
whenever I walked into the room. He claims that the women tell him their problems and it's
confidential. They trusted him. Well, I'm his wife! He spends his energy, meeting their
needs and he has no time for me. Our relationship is suffering while he spends hours just
chatting with other women. I go to bed alone and I wake up alone. He has lied to me. He
has hidden things from me. He barely tolerates me. He is rude and withdrawn. He has become
a stranger to me. He claims this is all in my head. I have thought of leaving him for a
while. I cannot go on like this. My mental and physical health are deteriorating. I have
tried talking to him. Sadly, he will not cooperate. I don't even think he will give me a
second thought when I'm gone.
i'm fairly new to the net and am looking for some guidance. As you are addicts you must have extensive experience in the good sites. Now the web has become commoditised, these sites are becoming harder to find. I would be grateful to benefit from your experience. Please share your favourite sites with me.
Thanks and regards Len
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As you know, from time to time, Internet-a-holics Anonymous provides Interviews to various News Agencies and other forms of Media, to create public awareness of this Universal Problem that we call INTERNET ADDICTION. This helps others around the country and around the world, gain knowledge and share ideas that worked for them, to enable and help each other overcome this affliction.
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This story will reach and be read by over 47 million people, Worldwide.
This problem is Universal and we receive letters and phone calls from most every country in the world. The problems are the same in each home. They are related to Internet Addiction, Overuse of the Computer, Spousal Cheating in Online Chat Rooms, Kids and Teens, College Student's grade falling, social lives declining, divorce and breakup of the home, and quality time spent together, as we used to know it, before the arrival of Home Computers. People have no where to turn for help and support and that is where Internet-a-holics Anonymous comes in. We offer Support Groups and very information educational materials to help those in need.
Right now, we are looking for people to tell their individual stories, for this News Story and as well as for our Book, so others can relate and hopefully benefit from your experiences.
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All those who provide stories that are accepted and published, will receive a FREE COPY of New Book on Overcoming Internet Addiction, saving the home and family, the questionnaires and other literature, all to be released in the next 4-8 weeks or so. This is a $19.95 plus S&H value, FOR FREE, in appreciation of your support and story.
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Our main website address is: http://www.internetaddiction.com Also our long awaited New Book on Overcoming Internet Addiction will be released in 4-8 weeks and those of you who would like your story to be included, are encouraged to please contact us now, as we are going into our first printing, in 2-3 weeks. We are looking for stories on all areas of Internet Addiction. These include but are not limited to the following; Excessive Computer Use, Spousal Cheating in Online Chat Rooms, Kids and Teens, Online Games/Gambling and Shopping Addictions, and in general how Overuse of the Computer and The Internet, has turned your homes and lives upside down. Or how you foresee this happening in the near future, based on your current feelings about yourself or another's Internet Addiction affliction.
Remember: "If your feelings are telling you that someone's overuse of the Computer is creating havoc in your home or to your feelings, you are most probably right and should follow your instincts".
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The story will reflect these effects and some of the stories will also be used in our book on Internet Addiction, which will be available in approximately 4-8 weeks.
If you would like to be interviewed for this story and/or in the book, please let us know asap, as the reporter needs to plan the schedule now, in advance, for the scheduling and/or photographs. We would be very much interested in your input, and feel that it has the potential to help people all over the world, gain a better understanding just how life altering Internet Addiction is, and the types of problems it can lead to. We can do this in person, on the phone, by e-mail or fax. Whichever is most convenient for all, as we will not be in every city.
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Go for it Wayne. You said it all. I just left my husband for cheating in Chat Rooms in our own home ! And yes it is cheating for all of you out there who say it's innocent Chat. You know it's not, so if anyone is reading this and believes there spouses are innocently talking online, wake up and wise up, they are cheating in your own home.
I'll take the Pre-Release copy too at 20% off. Send me the ordering information.
I wish I had this 6 months ago, but want to see what to do now to get on with my life
after this experience, which I may add is quite a unique new reason for divorce and not
that uncommon from what I have been reading here on this site. Oh well, time to hit the
dating scene again. What a nightmare ! Disease out there ! Scary to be single in this
time.
I would like to order your Pre-Release copy of the Internet Addiction Recovery Book. How do I receive the 20% discount offered on the entry page to this site?
My wife is addicted to our computer. The kids are getting neglected as she gives her time to fill the emotional needs of strangers in Chat Rooms, then is exhausted for everything else. If this continues, we are out of here. A word of advice to all of you in Chat Rooms talking to strangers, when people out there alone would beg to have the family you do, that you are neglecting in the process. Your spouses will leave, so WAKE UP ! GET RID OF THE COMPUTERS and START TO LIVE AGAIN IN THE REAL WORLD.
We need the BOOK asap. When is it being Released?
I want to order the 20% off pre-release copy today. Send me the ordering info. asap.
Thankyou. She needs it very much and I need to see if there are tips in there I can use on
her as well.
My heart breaks for so many of us out there who have experienced a marriage breakup because of the lure of the computer. The extreme sadness of it all is that it is too late by the time you realise what has happened. In a marriage relationship you trust, and give your spouse the benefit of the doubt - this is what committment and love are all about.
We purchased a home computer approx. 9 months ago, and our marriage has turned into a nightmare. My husband became involved with pornography, and especially chatrooms. It went from 10pm-1-2am, then 3-4am, then sometimes not coming to bed at all. It was agonizing for me, as I felt another women, or group of my husband's friends had come into the house to party with him, but I was not invited. This life of his behind the closed door of the computer room became very private and secretive. Trust, turned to suspicion, anger and an inability to know where to turn to fiqure out what was happening.
A few months ago he sat me down and told me he was leaving. He had been very unhappy
for years. (We've only been married 5 years) - He was full of blame, extreme denial that
the computer had anything to do with our problems. He was tired of me controlling his
life, I always thought I was perfect, etc, etc. This man speaking to me was a total
stranger to me. It was not at all the man I had known, loved and married; Not even the man
I had admired a few short months before. It was like a Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. He had
been gone for 2 months now, and it has been the hardest experience of my life. I remember
the loving, warm, kind, affirming man I once knew. The communication I have had with him
since his leaving has been abrupt, and unkind on his part - saying that I have made life
difficult for him, so he will do the same to me. It is absolutely bizarre. I have been a
part of an Al-Anon group which has been amazingly wonderful for me; This is an addiction,
and must be seen as such. There is recovery, if only they could see the need. In the
meantime I must watch in agony and wait. It is so very very sad to see the ramifications
this has, not only on me, but on others around us who love and value both my husband and I
very much. My opinion is that the root of the problem is not the computer; It has become a
tool to satify already very unhappy individuals - individuals who have little self worth,
self esteem, or self-respect. The problem is with there inner self; The choice to use the
computer for "evil" instead of good rests on them. They is nothing we can do
about their choices, and it is not our fault. Let Go and Let God has been a wonderful
comfort to me. Very Very DIFFICULT to apply, but will help me from becoming the victim. I
believe my husband has a disease and is very sick. I do not think it appropriate to be
cruel harsh, unloving and bitter in return. Like one other writer expressed - MAY GOD HELP
ALL OF US WHO ARE SUFFERING WITH THIS. My heart goes out to you all - believe me I know
what it feels like - It is unbelievably, undescribably painful.
moi je sais pas comment je demarre a ecrire mon histoire qui m'a fais triste et tres
afflige moi j'ai connu une fille qui m'a quitte car elle aime un autre et car elle vx
seulement jouer oui c'est sa elle ne vx pas faire un relation d'amour mutuel et du respect
mais elle vx l'inverse et moi menant j'ai pas une fidele qui vx m'aimer pour toujours j'ai
17ans et je suis etudiant qui vx contacter moi pour etre amis ou +q'amie ok
bonjour
Our home has been turned upside down since purchasing our computer last year. My husband is cheating in our own home. He speaks to women in Chat Rooms and gives them his energy and time. His says its just fun, but he's bull. This is real time talk with real time people, no different than if he was calling strange women on the phone at home and talking all night. No different.
I would like to order your Book. If that works, it will save our marraige. I am willing to get him to try anything. He says he will. How do we order it or I am out of here and on to meeting other men.
Help is needed now. Do you do rush delivery?
Do I receive a discount if I purchase the Internet Addiction Book AND the T-shirt? If
so, how much?
Please send me ordering information on your Internet Addiction Recovery Book too.
Thankyou.
Hi my name is Ron and my x-girl friends name is Linda, well I'll start of by saying that me and Linda have been together for 9 years now, And about 2 years ago we got are self a computer and not to long after that the net came, I'm the kind of guy that like to learn new things all the time, And that is how I got traped into the net, it was a never ending story, allways finding new things, I was into Chatting (alot) Downloaning from FTP, also playing online games, evan talk with ladys alot, there where times when I had a day of from work where I would spend 18 hours in front of a computer, just doing any thing and every thing, it really got bad, And at that time I didn't think I had a problem, Linda would allways ask me to get of and spend some time with her, but I would tell her to wait, I'll be right there, 3 hours later I was ready to get of, by that time it was time for Linda to goto bed, So I would goto bed also with her for a bit, then I would get back up out of bed and go right back to the computer tell early morning, I tought I was being a nice guy to Linda, I was allways home and I also did my house work very fast, And thought Iwas doing a great job, But I was not. I was so hocked to the net, there was times when Linda would tell me , Ron get of there i'm starting to fall out of love with you, She would evan cry alot, I could here her from the bed room, But at the time I didn't care, Why didn't I you say...Well because I thought I was not doing any thing wrong, And it was just Linda, There was times when Linda wanted to get on the computer and do her own stuff, And I would be setting there waiting for her to get of so I could get back on, So what I did was went out and got Lina her own computer and set her up with every thing she needed, Well that was probley the worst thing that has come back to hont me, Linda was so heart by this time, And she start to find friends her self over the net, So here we are every net, Linda over there and me over here , both on are own computers, talking to people all over the world, And the more you find out about theys people the more you get hocked, You allways look forward to coming home to see if your friends are online and how there day went, Both me and Linda where like this, Well Linda meet a guy over the net, that she talk to alot about me at first, as time went by Linda and this guy got really close, I know there was more then just friends, At first I was pritty upset and mad, I asked my self why is she doing this?. Now I know, as me and Linda brok up all most 6 months ago. And I have had alot of time and help from a Therapist, I know now back then I was not doing such a great job with the house as I thought I was, NO where close to what I should have been doing, I was not spending any time with Linda as a partner, We stoped going out, or away like we did alot befor the net came to are house, There was so many thing that we stoped doing, Evan with the kids, we where not doing any thing with them, well sence I have moved out and have goten the help I needed, Linda and I have started to date, As she stoped talking to this other guy, But not to long ago they have started to talk again, And right now Linda is mixed up, She has feeling for 2 guys now, And I know I can't get mad at her for this, as It was mosty all my falt that we are in this spot, So with my therapist help her told me it's best you let Linda go for now, And let her make her mind up who it is she want to spend her life with, So we have just done that, Me and Linda had a talk, I let Linda know I was stepping aside, So she could had some time to her self, I also told her tho that if there was a time she needed to talk, to pick up that phone and call me, I'll allways be here for you, SO at this point I don't know if me and Linda are done for good or not, there was also other problems we had that I'm getting help for now, But it has nothing to do with the net, But why i'm telling you all this, if you have a problem with the net and you sound like I do, Stop and really think to your self, is it worth lossing your family over..? well I can tell you it's not, Because I maybe in the spot, And it's no fun to be away from your family I miss them a great bell, So do something befor it's to late, get some help, Because I know where you are, right now you may think to your self your not doing any thing wrong, but really when you take the time to get away from the net, I bit you , you will say I was right, I know it's hard right now probley to see it, Me my self I only spend tops 30 min a day on my computer now, some day I don't evan get on it, I'll I can say is if your wife or hus is getting mad at you, There is probley a good reson for it, GET THE HELP BEFOR IT'S TO LATE.... Please e-mail me if you like to get more info, or evan want the help to break away from the net as I have, And oh ya I forgot to tell you, if me and Linda ever where to get back together there would be no net in the house, There was to much pain from me and from Linda, it's not worth it, trust me...
Well take care for now glad to here from you..
To whom it may concern. I was once a very happy married man of 14yrs until the online chatting began. I have now been involved in a divorse and a very complicated custody battle because of it. My soon to be ex-wife began her chatting as a hit and miss issue. And eventually grew to be something that she could not do without. Once she found someone to talk to one on one it became a must do habit. It included constant online time, phone calls, picture sending and gift exchanging. My 3 children have also been coaxed into chatting with her new found love. The real sad part of my story is that we both went to a marriage counselor for help. The only thing that came out of the sessions was that my wife was doing nothing wrong by spending 3-4hrs a day chatting with another male. This did not include the time spend on the phone to him at home and from her place of employment. But still I could not except what a proffesional couselor was telling me. How does a married man accept the fact that it is ok for his wife to spend much more time comunicating with a fantasy than with her husband and children as being "ok". There is alot more to my story that I would like to tell but do not have the time to do so. As for now I am trying to deal with possibly loosing my children just because I am a male. I wish someone somewhere could do something about all the horror stories caused by all the families that have been destroyed by these so called "normal" people who insist on breaking there families apart to satisfiy there selfish behavior. There is never a winner in these cases only loosers the children. I believe it is to late for my situation since she filed for a divorse and is conviced she has fallen in love with her chat room friend, but I hope that it will not be to late for the other families who are in the middle of a similiar situation. I wish to hear a response from you or anyone else who has gone through what I have.
thanks and GOD BE WITH ALL OF US WHO HAVE SUFFERED
To whom it may concern. I was once a very happy married man of 14yrs until the online chatting began. I have now been involved in a divorse and a very complicated custody battle because of it. My soon to be ex-wife began her chatting as a hit and miss issue. And eventually grew to be something that she could not do without. Once she found someone to talk to one on one it became a must do habit. It included constant online time, phone calls, picture sending and gift exchanging. My 3 children have also been coaxed into chatting with her new found love. The real sad part of my story is that we both went to a marriage counselor for help. The only thing that came out of the sessions was that my wife was doing nothing wrong by spending 3-4hrs a day chatting with another male. This did not include the time spend on the phone to him at home and from her place of employment. But still I could not except what a proffesional couselor was telling me. How does a married man accept the fact that it is ok for his wife to spend much more time comunicating with a fantasy than with her husband and children as being "ok". There is alot more to my story that I would like to tell but do not have the time to do so. As for now I am trying to deal with possibly loosing my children just because I am a male. I wish someone somewhere could do something about all the horror stories caused by all the families that have been destroyed by these so called "normal" people who insist on breaking there families apart to satisfiy there selfish behavior. There is never a winner in these cases only loosers the children. I believe it is to late for my situation since she filed for a divorse and is conviced she has fallen in love with her chat room friend, but I hope that it will not be to late for the other families who are in the middle of a similiar situation. I wish to hear a response from you or anyone else who has gone through what I have.
thanks and GOD BE WITH ALL OF US WHO HAVE SUFFERED
My partner of five years bought our PC to help me with my study. But our relationship
is suffering because of it. Nightimes were spent cuddeling on the sofa now he just sits at
the computer not even speaking. I think i am stupid for feeling jealous of a dam machine
but it is just like he is having an affair. When he has a break from it he is very moodey
until he gets back on it.
I would like to know how to order your Internet Addiction Book and T-Shirt? Please send
pricing and photo. Thankyou. We need help !
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I used to have a full life,played tennis,horse riding,many sports and many friends,but 10 years ago I got a computer and the trouble started,,I felt compelled to get on websites,messages boards,I felt I HAD to e mail my new friends everday for fear my friends would wonder where I am or feel offended,,I became obsessive about message boards and they became my social life...as with many of you probably,your old non-cyber friends probably started to drift finding you to be one who would rather hack on a computer than hack out in the woods.In this 10 year period I gained weight off and on in roller coaster fashion,would be able to keep the weight off for awhile,then the computer became to much of a fix and so did the food,after all I thought,I must do more than move my fingers,I must also move my teeth about <grind,grind> and it took the form of spam,popcorn,cake,cookies,soda drinks,, anything not fit for a toxic waste dump and easily acsessable. Now I'm making up my mind to stop this non-sense, lose mass quanities of weight and get my life back.
No social life,no relationship,no recreation,no life,and alot of frustration and depression.
Happily I DO have some very old e mail friends who understand but the one's within the
last year through five months ago,that's another question entirely.
We need help asap. Our story is printed below. Please contact us as soon as possible.
We have e-mailed you our phone # and would like personal consultation so we can speak
about our problem to people who have been there, done that. Call us as soon as you can.
Thankyou. By the way, we would like to order the Internet Addiction Book too.
I would also like to order your Internet Addiction Book and Internet-a-holics T-Shirt.
Please advise how to order this and where to send check. Thankyou. Need it ASAP.
I would like to order your Internet Addiction Book. Maybe it will help save our
marraige, otherwise I'm gone, asta la vista to my husband, who would rather be with his
computer than me. You may as well send me a T-Shirt too. Will make him wear it as
punishment, in public, announcing that he is an Internetaholic. I will gladly pay for
federal express if you can rush delivery to me this way. I AM FED UP, SORRY THAT I BOUGHT
A COMPUTER. IT COST ME MY MARRAIGE
Iam a victim of INTERNET ADDICTION.
I can't stop getting illegal software, and trying to hack into newbie users. Every day at school all i can think about is. "is mine ftp site ok","i wonder if someone msged me on irc", and "i wonder if this is a sercurty hole in windows"
i guess iam addicted for the power, free software, and the fun of serving.
most web pages don't talk about the highest stage of network addiction,so i thought i
would bring it up :)
The computer we purchase has changed our family forever. No longer do we spend time with one another. Everybody is busy doing their own thing and my daughter doesn't go out as much with her friends. She becomes hostile when I tell her to get off the computer. This is very bad for this generation of teenagers. I'd like to order your book too. Any advice is helpful and this sounds like what I have been looking for. I will join your Saturday night support group to see what others in my situation are doing.
Thankyou. Look forward to order information on the book. When is its release date?
I'd Like to order a copy of your Internet Addiction Book, along with the T-Shirt. Do you accept checks? Let me know.
Gwen43@earthlink.net
I saw your Post. There are online Support Group meetings here with people from around the world, every Saturday evening and every Wednesday evening,starting at 9:00 PM pacific coast time.
Enter from the home page after registering for Free
Its about people helping people who have been there
Please post more information about your Internet Addiction Tapes and Book for sale. I'd
like to receive any info you have by email on both. Please rush this information. We are
in a crisis in our home and this type of advice is needed much here now before we end up
in divorce court . Thankyou.
Please post more information about your Internet Addiction Tapes and Book for sale. I'd
like to receive any info you have by email on both. Please rush this information. We are
in a crisin in our home and this type of advice is needed much here now before we end up
in divorce court . Thankyou.
Please post more information about your Internet Addiction Tapes and Book for sale. I'd
like to receive any info you have by email on both. Please rush this information. We are
in a crisin in our home and this type of advice is needed much here now before we end up
in divorce court . Thankyou.
Oh, and the below story has the wrong email address. It's not lavinia@yahoo.com It's
laffanta@yahoo.com
Okay, my story is a little complicated. I'm a junior in high school. I've basically
been addicted to the internet since 7th grade. This is kind of embarassing. My parents
have sent me to psychiatrists (because I'm not very social), and I haven't been able to
tell them. So, this is really my deep, dark secret. It's not as bad as if I had committed
a crime or something, but I feel more embarassed about it. When I was in elementary
school, I was in a small community, and I had set friends. I was relatively social,
although a little shy. But in early 7th grade, I went with a few of these friends to a
new, big school, and I fell out with the friends from my old school. They basically
adjusted well to the new school, and I didn't. I was completely paranoid that they were
spreading things about me behind my back (I don't know if they were), so I was paralyzed
socially. I basically had no friends. About late sixth grade, I found that when I was
really bored, I could entertain myself by pretending (like what you do when your a little
kid, sort of imaginary-world pretending) that I was someone else, in a sort of imaginary
world. After I fell out with these friends, I didn't go out much in public, and I didn't
WANT to go out in public because I didn't want to risk running into someone from my new
school. I also gained a bit of weight. I wasn't fat, but I no longer was thin. I also lost
some of my speed, and since I'd always been an athlete, this really hindered me. But
anyway, after I fell out with my friends, I started pretending to be this character on a
TV show. I'd always lock the door and turn up the music very loud so no one could hear me.
I hadn't really liked this TV show that much, I just was luke warm about it, but I really
began to get upset if I missed the show now. I started going online for the fist time, and
I found all these message boards and chat rooms and fanfiction and websites for this TV
show, so I began spending about 2 hrs. a day just browsing through all of this, not
actively participating. My family would ask me what I did online, still do, and I'd just
be evasive. I did well in school through this, but I didn't have many friends. I went away
to a boarding school in the midwest. I didn't make any friends, and I resented my roomate
because I couldn't do my sort of imaginary games when she was in the room. I also didn't
have access to the internet at first. I'd basically have to live on pretending I was this
character in my imagination and then going home at break and catching up on all the online
stuff I'd missed. But that changed the next year when my school got internet access, so I
started to go on all the time again as well as this imaginary stuff. I grew distant from
my family. I'd do this imaginary thing about three hours a day, and the internet about
two. Anyway, here I am; I'm in eleventh grade, and I'm still trapped in this. I mean, I'm
a freakin seventeen year old and I'm still living in some imaginary world like I'm a six
year old. I can't stop. I've tried, but I don't have friends, I can't make friends-- I'm
just too paranoid they'll turn on me. So I have so much time in my room, and I just sort
of slip back into this-- talking to thin air, almost /seeing/ people there talking back
(other characters from the show), and most of the time, I think this is okay. It's only
short periods of time that I realize how sick this is, then I can only think what a loser
I am doing this. And I am still obsessed with this fucking TV show and character. I'm
hoping that once it goes off the air, I'll be okay, but I've recently begun to doubt it. I
have to stop this now, or I'll fall into this same thing in college. I'm friendly enough,
I'm pretty smart, I'm okay looking, it's not like I have some big disability going against
me. I just can't seem to get over myself.
hey evryone me and three of my friends are doing a school project on Is intenet addiction safe for teens and young adults I saw some of your Stories here but we still need some more Information so anything You can tell me about your addiction would be a big help! I would also like to refer you to a very helpful website www.nwu.edu/resnet/getctrl we would all like to thank you for your help and please email us at eitherof the following addresses sweetbrat2000_2000@yahoo.com or dshah1388@aol.com
thanx again thanx 4 your help!!!
Please send me more information about your Internet Addiction Book and T-Shirts. I am
interested in purchasing them. Thankyou.
I am the EXACT same individual that "posted" on March 1st, March 3rd and March 9th, 2000. Earlier, I had stated that I would be posting a VALID e-mail address where I could be reached. For PERSONAL reasons, I have changed my mind and decided NOT to do this.
I would suggest that ANYBODY who knows (or is in "denial") that they suffer with INTERNET ADDICTION DYSFUNCTION(s), merely, do some RESEARCH on this subject...get involved with the "support group" here...and SHOW this very page to somebody whom you KNOW is addicted.
There is enough "text and testimonials" posted here to WAKE UP most folks, if
they, but only, READ. I thank you for your time. I thank you for your patience. I am
"outta here", BECAUSE I really do have more important matters to attend to..
:-o)
Hi,
My name is Cees Kan and I'm working as a psychiatrist at the University Hospital of Nijmegen in the Netherlands. I have recently started scientific research of internet addiction with the aim to develop treatment for this serious condition.
I invite Dutch persons who experience this problem to contact me by e-mail
(C.Kan@czzopsy.azn.nl) if they are willing to participate in research and/or want to
receive treatment.
Hi,
My name is Cees Kan and I'm working as a psychiatrist at the University Hospital of Nijmegen in the Netherlands. I have recently started scientific research of internet addiction with the aim to develop treatment for this serious condition.
I invite Dutch persons who experience this problem to contact me by e-mail
(C.Kan@czzopsy.azn.nl) if they are willing to participate in research and/or want to
receive treatment.
How much does the Internet Addiction Book and T-Shirt Cost? Post the order form.
Thankyou.
I have a great story to post here that everyone can relate to and I will post it here on Saturday before the live support group.
I want to know how to order the new Internet Addiction Book. We need it as soon as you
can mail it.
Please post how I can order the New Book on Internet Addiction advertised. Need it bad. My marraige is going down the tubes. Our home has become a place of middle of the night chat room pickups. Love my wife but have no idea how to help her. She is obsessed with our computer instead of me. it doesnt matter who she is on with, as long as she is on. Need organized program to put her on. My doctor thinks its funny and my imagination.
Where do I order the book?
My name is Laura..and i am 14 years old..since 3 years i have internet..and I am kind
of addicted. I am in the net maby 4-5 hours a day..an if I can't get into I just go crazy,
its the same line as our phoneline..and if my brother wants to call somebody I beat him
up...I don't know what to do..and I live in Turkey and they don't know anything about
Internet-addiction. I even don't go out that often, because I always want to go into the
Internet. You know the programm icq?? thats my chat...I always chat there...and I think
thats the reason why I am always online, just because of that program.. I hope that you
can help me.. Laura
Email_Address:
I am new to webtv.Thru chat I met someone and have been role playing.I am old enough to
be his mother. I am amrried and get on with him every chance I get. It is also cybersex
which is fantastic and has helped me in bed with my husband.I do have a conscious and want
to give it up cause the guy thinks I am 18 and we exchanged pictures.I adore him.I feelI
need this to get me thru life right now, but sometimes I wish I could be that 18 year old
beauty again.I tried to stop but could not get thru it.Is it harmless?Or detrimental?This
same role I play is on a talkshop and I generate alot of attention.I know what addiction
is.I am a nurse in pyschiatry.We also use the xxx sited for cybersex.I need help,only
cause it is unfair to him and nothing will come of this.I feel no guilt about my husband.
Susan,
Please write me. I have lost my wife to the same problem and regret not paying more attention to what was going on. My house has been turned upside down since the day we bought our first computer and our quality time together disappeared. I would like to join support group same day you do, so I know someone with same problem is there to share with.
Please whoever is out there, send me info on how to order your book and what the heck, I'll take a T-Shirt too. How much are they?
Steve Anonymous in Detroit
I would also like to order a copy of the New Book on how to overcome Internet Addiction. Please send me ordering instructions.
If you can send me a picture of what the Internet Addiction.com T-Shirt looks like, I would like to order that too. Please put photo of it up on your site. Thankyou.
My husband left me for someone he met in a Chat Room and now I have to raise 2 kids under 12 on my own. He was on the computer when I went to bed at night. I thought he was working, but he was chatting to other women all year and finally connected with an emotional relationship, then called her on phone, then met. I threw him out, as I was sleeping alone at this point and he lost his job because he was on computer till 5 a.m. and couldnt get sleep or up for work.
I know I am better off without the bum now, but still all of you out there who think your husbands are working on the computer, please watch what they do. They can cheat right in your own home and dont have to leave the house. This is not the exception. It is very common.
I need to join your support group, and would like to order whatever I can to validate that what I am feeling is real and there are others like me that can help and relate to my situation. There is no place to go. My lawyer even thinks I'm exaggerating during divorce and my doctor says nothing of the kind like Internet Addiction exists.
Thankyou so much for recognizing this problem and creating a site for me to read that there ARE others like me out there.
Place me on your mailing list and let me know if after its too late, if you have anything that will give me HOPE, relief, rest, that I can read or listen to too. I will buy it.
Thanks. Send me ordering info for book and tshirt
I think I'm not internet-addicted, but nevertheless I want to write some words. I'm 18
and I began to use internet about a month ago. At first I was just looking for some news
on politics and music, but then I found a great pleasure form chatting. For some time it
was my favourite way of spending my time. I still wasn't the indternet-addicted, but I was
going to be. Suddenly I found an article in one magazine about this addiction with
reference to this cite. I was tensely thinking for two days and the conclusion was that I
just had wanted to find another reality, but internet is NOT another reality - it's a part
of life, so I must use it just to HELP me adapt to the life but not for opposite. I think
no one can help an addicted person untill he want someboby to help him. He must change his
aims because if not he will just find another way to get away (like drugs) when you forbid
him to use a computer. You may not agree this my thoughts but think of it at least.
Email_Address:
I am a journalist based in Nottimgham, England working for Carlton Television. I am researching a programme about internet addiction and would like to hear authentic accounts from people whose lives have been affected by addiciton such as gambling, chat rooms. How did the problems start, how bad did it become and what happened. If you fit into this category and live in England then I would love to hear from you.
I can be contacted at emma.barron@carltontv.co.uk
I am a journalist based in Nottimgham, England working for Carlton Television. I am researching a programme about internet addiction and would like to hear authentic accounts from people whose lives have been affected by addiciton such as gambling, chat rooms. How did the problems start, how bad did it become and what happened. If you fit into this category and live in England then I would love to hear from you.
I can be contacted at emma.barron@carltontv.co.uk
i am a student. i have started surfing the net for a year. I dont know how to stop and
continue to play until 4am or later. It really affects my life such no time to do my
revision, no time to play with my friends, no time to chat with my family.
My husband is addicted to Mplayers! He started off by just getting on there to play
cards. He now has an internet girlfriend. I am so hurt. He spend NO time with me and our
children. We have been married 7 1/2 years and have two girls (3 and 5 years old). We live
in Alabama and the girl he talks to is in Canada. He says it nothing and I am blowing it
out of proportion. I read in the ICQ history their little talks. She is IN LOVE with him.
He of course does not tell her back. BUT now they go in locked rooms on Mplayer and talk
on the microphone. I am not allowed in the same room when they talk. He got so mad at me
last week because I would not leave the room (I guess he did not want me to hear what they
were saying) that he slapped me in the face. I called the cops and they arrested him. He
was back home in a few hours. Now we don't even speak. This woman thinks he is single. ALL
the women he has talked too thinks he is single. He sent them all a fake picture, makes up
fake stories about himself. I REALLY THINK HE HAS FALLEN FOR THIS WOMEN. He is always on
the computer unless he is at work. He only gets about 2 hours sleep per day now. PEOPLE
PLEASE DO NOT TRUSTS THESE PEOPLE YOU MEET ON THE NET, MPLAYERS, ICQ.
All I want and crave is on the ICQ chat lines. I have not other interests than to just
simply look forward to the people in the chat rooms.
I hate being addicted to the internet, it's so bad that I feel like the only way I'll
ever get over it is by throwing the computer away. I don't read books anymore, my grades
in school have dropped and I have gained a whopping 50 pounds or more since I got the
internet. :( I'm always depressed, and I try very hard to quit, like cancelling my AOL
subscription for another ISP, and deleting AIM from my computer only to install it again.
UGH! I hate it so much!
My name is Candy. In 1996, I met a young man on a chat program called POWWOW. He was so much fun and we laughed constantly. Soon, I was rushing home to get online to talk to him, and we were sending each ohter emails to awaken and to go to sleep with. HE lived in the Netherlands and I in Florida, and it was never a romantic interest. Just real deep good friends that you could tell anything to. then my daughter graduated from high school and was sent on a 4 week vacation to Florence Italy as a present from her father. I went for the first two weeks and Marco joined us there.
Before the end of the first week, I knew that I loved him, and when he kissed me for the first time, I almost passed out. I saw black stars, and was completely breathless. We walked around those quaint streets kissing, touching, loving.
Two weeks later I headed to Amsterdam to visit him for 2 weeks. We continued the relationship as it had been in Florence, except that there was much to think about. Several times I was going to leave, but just couldn't because I was so much in love with him.
We continued this internet romance once I returned to florida. In august, I asked him to marry me. He said yes. We married October 11, 1996. That began the happiest two years of my life.
Unfortunately Marco could not find the job. As we entered the third year, Marco became decidedly unhappy, and there was little I could do to help, as he completely shut me out. He began studying spanish like a fanatic, and staying up all night online. Then accidentally I found that he was having an internet affair with a person from Chile. She was 2 years younger, which he very rudely pointed out during one of our arguments. I could change my weight, color of hair and eyes, conversational language, learn computers, but I can not change my age.
After 4 months of escallating horror, he finally left me, taking our siberian huskie Ayla. It was the lowest point in my entire life. I felt as tho my heart was completely ripped from my body. I wrote a poem describing my pain:
There was
There was once a fullness here, Now it is empty.
There was once sun and light, Now only fleeting shadows of what was.
There was joy, Now only the leaden weight of sadness.
There was music, Now only the drone of solitude.
There was beauty, Now only the colorless aesthetic of darkness.
There was laughter, Now only the echo of silence.
There was the thrill of his touch, Now only the numbness of skin left fallow.
There was love, Now only the pain of forgetting, And the heartache of being forgotten
Marco has gone to be with her already. The pain of being forgotten has shadowed my every moment, my every thought. He wants nothing more to do with me, saying that it is best. for him, I am sure...for me, who knows. All I know is that it is unfair to show me what happiness is, and rip my heart out forever afterward.
I sold my home, clearing out our debts with the proceeds, and moved what i had left to Amsterdam, after being promised a job by a head hunter. When I got here they say that there is not job until I learn to read, write, speak, understand Dutch. So I go to school every day, study every night, and walk my dog Shunkie in between studying and school.
There is no joy, no sunshine, no future for me. I continue because of my wonderful little boy Shunkie, and for my grown children. There is not much fun in living, but maybe when I get a job, and an apartment, I can begin to live again....I have refused to date because I have no interest in it.
There are others out there like me. I pray that you can find a way to communicate to eachohter and not to the internet. It is incredibably addictive and can destroy a great relationship.
Pray for me to heal, I am tired of being sad
Candy
This is sad, an internet page about internet addiction.
This is for my friend Mario. He is addicted to the internet, and has not been spending
time with any of his friends. He needs help. If someone could help him I and many others
close to him would appreciate it. Thank you -His good friend Matt I am leaving his email
address so one of you guys can talk to him
It started off as a(n expensive) hobby, but now....I CAN'T STOP! The phone bill is
going to kill my parents! I can't control myself though, it's all that I think
about.....ok, ok, admitedly I'va always been a bit of a psychopath but...HELP! I NEED
HELP!
I LOVE the Internet!! The time flies by when I'm online. I don't know what to do. I get
on right after school hoping the guys I like will get online. I stay on till I fall asleep
at the computer desk. I need help!!!
I would like to order your Internet Addiction Recovery Book too. Let me know exact cost, shipping, and how to order . thankyou.
How much are the T-Shirts? Do you have a photo of the t-shirt you can send me first?
i'm addicted to yahoo! i just love it and i hope you all want to share in my
testemonial addiction
Me too - send me the info on the book
Count me in! Please send ordering instructions to purchase your 12 Step Internet
Addiction Recovery Book advertised. Where do I order it?
I can't wait to wake up in the morning and start checking my email. My computer was
down for one day and I had over 100 emails. I am a member of so many groups I can't keep
track. Chatting is something I do once in a while - I just love the email and web boards.
I can't make myself go to bed, in fear of missing an email. I also can't eat a meal if I
am not sitting at the keyboard. If I drop any more food into the keyboard I think my
husband is going to divorce me.
My best friend is an Internet addic. He stays up until like 7 a.m. on his computer;
programming or chatting, or whatever. At first, it wasn't that bad. He would be on the
Internet for like an hour or two a day, then it got progressively worse and worse and has
ruined his life more and more. Because of his problem, he is currently being homeschooled
for the second time, and only has two friends. He only sees us once every few weeks, if
we're lucky. His problem is so bad that now he has a psychologist and is on prescription
medicine, including Prozac. They think he has social anxiety disorder. I try my best to
help him, but nothing will help. His life is probably ruined because of the Internet and
his computer.
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Hey! We are two 14 year old girls with serious problems. Reading these stories makes us
aware of how obsessed we really are. We really only go on everyday as soon as we get home
from school till the time we go to sleep in hopes that the boys we like will eventually
sign on and talk to us. This is sad we know but we cant help it.
Hi, I am a 45 yr old woman that became very addicted to sex chat rooms. It start out with me just being very curious as to what people do and say in these chat rooms. I am very much overweight and have a very low esteem of myself. I am very much still sexually alive, but had no one in my life to share those emotions with. I got involved in chatting with men in sex rooms. There I could be who I wanted to be, young, attractive and exciting. I met a man that I had come to enjoy chatting with until early hours in the morning, enjoyed receiving e-mails from every morning and every evening. We would write and plan times to meet in the sex chat rooms. He would send me email greeting cards, nasty cards and I was simply enjoying the attention. After a few days of chatting, he gave me his phone number and I would call him and we would talk about many things, but mostly phone sex for hours at my expense, because I wouldn't give him my phone number. When I received my phone bill, I didn't even open it right away afraid of the damage I had done, calling someone I didn't even know talking sex on the phone.
This relationship almost costed me my best friend. I had gotten to the point that I was lieing all the time to this friend, because I knew that they wouldn't have approved of what I was doing in these sex chats. My friend would catch me in many lies and I really felt bad about that, but I was also enjoying what I had with this man.
I finally told him the truth about me, or at least some of the truth and we have ended this relationship of sex chats, phone sex and emails. I still think of him at times, but I know that it was wrong and I feel ashamed of what I had done.
These chats rooms are addicting and if you are a weak person, it will cause you to lose loved ones that really matter and care about you for you. I found that out just in time....
Good Luck to All...
hey, im 14 and i love to chat, surf the web and do wahtever. but i'd rather stay home
and be online the go out with my friends to the mall or movies or dance or sumpin like
that.... hurry up and get your 12 step program so i can see where i am... i am online til
like 4 in the morning, wahtas wrong with me
Life online is simply NOT a life, for if you create yourself a real life, you wouldn't have time for an Online Life. All you people out there, please help yourselves before it's too late. Habits are hard to break and getting comfortable with them is NOT the answer. Take it from one who knows!
FORCE YOURSELF TO GO OUT!
I might only be 15 but me and my friends can both tell u i am totally addicted 2 the
internet!!!!!!!! Someone help me before they make me sign another contract again so that i
cant speak about my life on line!!!!!
I can definitely relate to the testimonial stories on your testimonial link on home
page. I didnt realize there were so many of us out there like this.
Add 2 Internetaholic T-Shirts to that order too
If your book can save our home, we will pay you double. Send one.
Art & Sylvia in Memphis
I want a book to get help too? How do I order it? My daughters grades have fallen from A-C and she gets violent when I try to take the computer away. She is only 12. Please help! I need a plan and have no beginning. No one here believes me!
Fed Up with Online Services and Computers in Milwaukee
We would like to order a copy of your book to save our marraige. We are almost in
divorce court and now we are willing to try anything (anything that is except getting rid
of our precious baby - our computer) . We are serious about this. How do we order it? Also
how many different style Internet Addiction T-Shirts do you offer and where can we view
them?
We have purchased our first computer and it's turned into a nightmare. I would rather lose the money and throw it away, than keep it. Our home and quality time have been taken away, my wife is on the computer all day and night, the house and kids are neglected, I think about what she is doing while i am at work, my kid is starting to do the same and we spend no time with one another anylonger, even something so simple as watching TV. If you have even one suggestion in your book, it will be worth it. How do i order it?
Pissed off in Chicago
(the internet has ruined our home)
Anyone want a free computer?
I would like to order an Internet Addiction T-Shirt.
How do I do this?
PLEASE WRITE YOUR E-MAIL ADDRESSES AT END OF YOUR POST/STORY, SO OTHERS CAN RESPOND TO YOU.
THANKYOU!
I would also like to order your Internet Addiction T-shirt but don't know where to order it from. Also how much is your 12 Step Internet Addiction Recovery Book? I can't respond to anyone's messages as no one is leaving their e-mail addresses on your message board. Can you ASK PEOPLE TO PLACE THEIR E-MAIL ADDRESSES IN THEIR MESSAGES SO OTHER PEOPLE THAT RELATE TO THEIR PROBLEMS CAN E-MAIL THEM BACK OPINIONS.
PEOPLE PLEASE LEAVE YOUR E-MAIL ADDRESSES WHEN YOU WRITE SO OTHERS CAN RESPOND TO YOU.
THANKS.
beaware2@aol.com
I like the web, get me off it now help help help
I'll order a copy of your internet addiction book too. Where should I mail my check to?
Internet Addiction and Computers have wrecked our once happy home.
I need your book asap as I want to try everything I can to save our marraige before I file for divorce. We have 4 kids under 14.
Where do I order it? I do not see any order form on your site. Is this going to your e-mail internetaddiction@prodigy.net?
Please advise if you have any other thing besides the 12 steps to internet addiction recovery book for sale to help us too.
Thanks. Look forward to our reply.
Sleepless in Miami
Hi- My e-mail address is esq4000@aol.com
My "significant other" and I live together and have a 3 year old son. I've had a computer for a year or so before I got online. I was facinated for about a month and then I just used it for work or research. He got one about 4 months ago. He knew little about computers and I made the mistake of showing him how he could chat with people.
Now he uses my AOL account to purchase things without my consent. He stays on the web chatting with women and others until 4 and 5 am. (He works a 3-11 shift) so he sleeps until 12 noon, gets up to eat and then naps from 1:30pm to 2:30 pm. He does nothing around the house. He spends little time with me or his son and expects me to accept this cyber-flirting. He accepts women's photos and in some cases has given his cell phone number out to be called.
I know that its a matter of time before he meets one of these women in person. He acts like I'm cramping his style. He expects me to have no spare time because I'm filled up with household and family cares but he can stay on the computer all night and sleep all day. I hate it and it has been the source of many arguments.
I'm sorry I ever taught him anything or that he got a computer. He says he's learning
things but he asks me questions that tell me he's not learning a darn thing! Our house has
become a pick-up joint and I cannot do a thing about it. I am definitely ready to leave!
Prayer to the Holy Spirit: Come Holy Spirit, fill my heart with your Holy gifts, let my
weakness be penetrated with your strength, that I may fulfill all the duties of my state
concentiously, that I may do what is right and just. Let my charity be such as to offend
no one and hurt no one's feelings, so generous as to pardon sincerely, any wrong done to
me. Assist me Hoy Spirit, in all the trials of life, enlighten me with my igmorance,
advise me in my doubts, strengthen me in my weakness, help me in all needs and
embarrassment. protect me from temptation and console me in affliction. Graciously hear me
Holy Spirit , and pour your light into my heart my soul and my mind. Assist me to live a
holy life and go in goodness and grace, Amen.
I am one of millions who are addicted, really addicted to the internet. All I do is
surf, chat the whole day everyday of the week. Most of the times, I don't eat anymore that
I have lost a lot of weight.Before I used to weigh 150 lbs., now I only weigh 70 lbs.My
computer is my only friend now. I am now losing my mind because of it. I don't want you to
help me.I like what I am doing. I am not sleeping anymore..so with my computer. I have
gone to every website there is, name it and I have been there. I've seen all sites that I
guess I'm losing my sight now.(Ha!) Internet is one of the best things that ever happen to
me........ and to you........So come on in and join the club!! Once you're in, you can
never get out!!!
What is internet addiction?
It is a disease that has no cure. It is what you do first thing in the morning, and the
second thing, and the third thing....till you have nothing more to do. It is when you
forgot to cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner coz you don't feel hungry. It is when you
won't be needing a timepiece coz it's something that can not be hurried. It is a kind of
addiction that you don't enjoy. It is a game you play that you don't win. It is a
condition that needs re-conditioning. It is something that you don't look forward to. It
is an excuse for not reporting to work. It is Y2K ready ( beware !!) It creates insomnia
and deteriorates the body. It is full of non-sense that the people who created it must
have a lot of it!! It is a waste of time. It is a waste of money. It is a waste of paper.
It is a waste of mind. In other words........ IT IS GARBAGE, PURE GARBAGE.......
I don't think it is a serious problem. Nobody gets addicted to the internet coz you get
to see the same stories in every site. You don't have to browse everyday, they are all the
same , nothing new, nothing to learn, nothing to be happy about. It is just a play, a
lousy game to play. So better cut off your internet connections. I don't find them
addicting. I just wonder why others do. Maybe they are psychotic or something....
There are a lot of more important and sane things to do than being hooked in the
internet for hours. What can you get from it anyway? It just wastes your precious time or
maybe you don't consider time to be precious. Just set your priorities in life, meaning
putting "internet" the last in your list. And if you've done that, you will
never ever have time in the internet. That solves your problem!
I find it some how Ironic that your internet addiction page is on the internet, that is
all
I would like to order a copy of the 12 Steps to Recovery Internet Addiction.com book too. Where do I order it? From the web address internetaddiction@prodigy.net? Please advise. I need it asap. Internet Addiction has turned our once peaceful house upside down.
Thankyou !
For all internet addicts:
You will need a lot of determination if you really want it cured. IF you don't have it, there's nothing you can do about it. You just have to take the consequences. You have your own free will... USE IT!!!!!! NOBOBY WILL USE IT FOR YOU!!!
vitar22@pacific.net.ph
For all internet addicts:
You will need a lot of determination if you really want it cured. IF you don't have it,
there's nothing you can do about it. You just have to take the consequences. You have your
own free will... USE IT!!!!!! NOBOBY WILL USE IT FOR YOU!!!
I think that internet addition is a serious problem.
one of my collegue is tremendouly addiction to the chat.
Now she reqires medicine.
e-mail wahida@cse.globalctg.net
I am serving as an executive of Chttagong Stock Exchange Ltd.for more than a year.Before coming to here we never even touch any computer After coming here I got an a personnal computer with which started learning computer in my off time.However after a few days office arranged for internet connection for every employee.And i got involved with internet.From then i couldn't work other than doing internet ueses which is causing a great problem.Now suggest me what can i do now.
My e-mail address is jashim@csebd.com
I am serving as an executive of Chttagong Stock Exchange Ltd.for more than a
year.Before coming to here we never even touch any computer After coming here I got an a
personnal computer with which started learning computer in my off time.However after a few
days office arranged for internet connection for every employee.And i got involved with
internet.From then i couldn't work other than doing internet ueses which is causing a
great problem.Now suggest me what can i do now.
I would like to order your Internetaholics T-Shirt in a size large and a copy of your
12 step book on internet addiction. How do i do this?
Please let me know how I can order all the Internet Addiction Books and other important information you have, so I can follow your 12 step internet addiction recovery course. I am in desperate need of it a.s.a.p.
Thanks
Hi there, I am a journalist based in Paris, working for the international news agency AFP (Agence France-Presse). I am researching a story about Internet addiction, and would like to hear authentic accounts from people whose lives have been affected by addiction, such as cyperporn, gambling, chatrooms etc. How did the problems start, how bad did they become and what happened?
My e-mail address is Richard.Ingham@afp.com
Many thanks in advance
Richard Ingham
Hi, My name is Marco,I am a 26 yearold guy from The Netherlands. I have a problem: When
I am on the internet at night, I almost knever go to bed on time. That causes big problems
because I don't show up at work very often. That's why I need some kind of protection or
lock on my PC wich will make sure that my computer is unaccessable after for example 12
midnight. I live alone so I need someone else to install the protection or the
installation programm needs to install it in a secretplace so I can not undo it. Can
anybody help me with this? My email is marco@home.nl Thanks.
I am thrilled to see that finally someone has taken web addiction seriously. I have suffered greatly, now let's see if this will help me, and a thousand others, hurry up and fishish!!!!!!!!
The addict
My husband of 30 years is chat addicted. He spends 20+ hrs/week online pretending he is
a teenager. He is very secetive about this, but I'm computer literate and know what's
going on. He says it's fine, doesn't affect me, I think it's creepy. I think I would
rather be really alone than virtually alone.
I've been married for 10 years and almost ruined my wonderful marriage by using Chat
Rooms. I was in such denial that I had to hit rock bottom before I realized that I was
addicted. I neglected my kids, my husband, my friends and I ignored their pleas to get
help. The next thing I knew, I was separated from my husband and totally alone in an empty
apartment with my computer. Luckily, I got my life back. But not without experiencing alot
of pain. I have not chatted for almost a year. I still get urge when I'm stressed, but we
have disconnected chat use from our computer.
Hi I am with a man whom I have been with for five years we now have 3 children together one whom is handicapped.since we have been together he is always been on the computor he is always on it all hours of the night he only goes to bed when I am getting up he has no patience with the kids or me for that matter.I know he is having affairs online but like the rest of you he denies it,my phone is always ringing withe private names and numbers somtimes 6 times a week and when we anwser they ask for different names,I also find lots of email like come and visit me here or hello sexy. I am looking for some help on this if someone knows some commands on how I can find out where to look on the computor it would help thanks! discusted.
you may email me at bewitch2@hotmail.com
Hello everyone. I am here because my husband is addicted to chatrooms and he started answering personal ads through the internet, trying to meet with women from both. We just got married 5 months ago and we had never lived together before. I knew something was wrong. He was very evasive around his computer, we got A LOT of trash mail and he didn't want to do anything outside the house. So I started checking. I became an expert at snooping on his computer. Six weeks ago, I found the personal ad emails. Some of them were written while I was in the other room! I was so hurt and devastated and feeling betrayed that I left while he was out. I didn't go back. I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my life and put it back together.
At first I was in DENIAL. This can't be happening to me! I just got married in Mexico 5 months ago! We had a good sex life. WHY? WHY? WHY? It took about 2 weeks to move into a very ANGRY stage. I was having thoughts about wanting to hurt my husband as much as he hurt me. I thought I HATED him. Now in the past couple of days, I was able to call and talk to my husband and ask him why. It was hard for me to restrain myself while listening to his excuses because they don't seem complex enough for me. He says he was ANGRY and BORED.
There's more to it than that of course but that's his deal. I'm hear to talk about internet addiction from the spouses point of view. So now after six weeks, I am in total grief. I am crying all the time. Really feeling the pain of what I have lost. A husband, a marriage, a future.
That's it I guess.Thanks for listening everyone. Peace Wendy
My nephew (17yrs) never used to touch the internet and most computer stuff. But recently, he has become completely taken over by those chatrooms and he is taking over my PC with all sorts of chatroom icons and ... 'stuff'...
He has to be surgically removed frpm the PC before I can get near it.
He stays on it for hours and short of threatening actual insult - assault and battery -
what can I do? JDH
Hi my name is anne and I am an inernet addict. i need the 12 step program pronto so
huryy it up with the condstruction. ummmmmm..okay thats all. email me back at
vespa189@aol.com i will be back, since i quit school to be online. im a drop out.
I am finding great thrilling in on surfing on the web I am doing daily one hour browsing online as i am student of webprogramming.
India B.PRADEEP KUMAR email:bprakumar@hotmail.com
I am finding great thrilling in on surfing on the web I am doing daily one hour browsing online as i am student of webprogramming.
India B.PRADEEP KUMAR
only , suffering from ,web browsing addiction that causes me alot of money wasting and
being away from my familly and friends and isolates me from community .. in addtion of not
concentrating in my work ..............please be of help to me ... I 'll thankfull to you
......................Bye
help my mum is tottaly addicted to the net we have had it for 6 months and ever since
she has not been sleeping,she has also broke up with my dad and all she cares about is her
"cyberfreinds" there is no one i can talk to about this because they do not know
how serious this really is!!!!
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Hello I am from Istanbul Turkey and I love Internet I am mad to it!!!! help me!!!!
Date:
I feel a little cheated when so many sites are under construction and yet you play them
up in your introduction as if they are up and running.
My 16 yr. old son is addicted to the internet. He is not doing well in school. He is failing classes,lying about doing homework and it is getting worse. He spends many hours on line playing games,in chat rooms etc. and it is difficult for him to go to bed at a reasonable hour especially on a school night. Lights are out and you think he is asleep and he is at the computer in the dark. He brings his food up to his room so he doesn't miss anything. No matter how much I ask him not to do that I don't know how to stop him. He comes down to supper when, we have finished. He is up til 1 in the morning school nights and sees the sun come up many times on weekends. I took the modem away and said he could use it on Friday but now he says people are mad at him at school (including a teacher) because he has not been allowed to use the modem. Apparently he is doing work for this teacher. How do we regulate his usage? I am afraid to give it back to him because he is so out of control. Even without the modem he is up all hours using his computer. He is a bright boy and has great potential to do well in school and he is crippling himself. It is difficult to watch him do this to himself.We argue and fight and there is no peace. I need help and so does my son. Thanks
e-mail is: murawski@postbox.csi.cuny.edu
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Hello my name is Linda and my spouse ron is addicted to the net he stays on all night long sometimes . On his days off he spends up to 19 hours straight on chat programs and has neglected our relationship the kids and even his choures. we are having a crisis in our family and the kids are acting out badly. my son ids very andgry because our family life went straight down the tubes . I am considering seperation he chats with all kinds o different women. I have accused him of having an cyber affair and he tells me they are his friends and that I am the sick one. He admits he has a problem but dosent do anything about it >I am at my wits end.
Help
Linda
A message to the stupid one down here. Hei little boy, we are talking about a problem.
A net problem. Or your I.Q. don't let you understand here. Yes, we know you don't have a
net. Maybe you can afford to have it. Or maybe you are so stupid you can't work on. Maybe
you should cut your head out. Or ask to your stupid mom to do it. Eat you own shit,
please. Thanks.
Now that I've read some of the story's of you all you computer-nerds, I'm glad that I
have a real social life, real friends and a real partner and not some weenie behind some
computer screen somewhere in the world. Thank God that I'm not like you!
It's incredible. I have the NET on my work. I use it all the time, because i'm
Journalist. But i note it, all ready, when i can, there am i. On MIRC. Just talking with
woman. About sex or other thing. It's just a need. Time after time. But i can do nothing
about. It's really sick. I know.
Dear LK I don't need your story to learn from . I have my own. Perhaps the newcomers can learn from all of our stories.
I want the book too. Email me order form here.Thankyou. MS - Venezuela
Where was this site when our family needed it. A word of the wise for new computer users is to: Stay out of Chat Rooms. They are like lethal injections that destroy and eat away good homes
A rating for this site
I would like to buy your book anyway, to see what could have been. ( My wife left me
and I do not live with my kids anymore) we used to be happy, now the family is divided,
all because of my computer addiction. learn from my story LK - Sydney , Australia
I would like to purchase your InternetAddiction.com book as well. Is this the book that
contains the 12 Step Recovery Program? If so, how much is it and where how do I order it?
Please email me as early as you can.
I would also like to purchase your 12 Step Program Book called InternetAddiction.com
and the InternetAddictee T-Shirt - great idea ! Please e-mail me your order form asap
thanks any discount for 2 of each?
I'm a white male professional with a home and three children. I'm single and face
problems of loneliness, especially at night. For about three years I've been going online
at night and going into the "Male 4 Male" chat rooms. That's led to a number of
clandestine meetings for anonymous sex, which leave me feeling terrible for days
afterward. I tell myself I'm never going to do it again, but I always seem to find my way
back to the chat rooms. Going into the chat rooms, I tell myself it's okay, I'm just going
to chat for a while to dull the loneliness. Then I talk myself into linking up with a
complete stranger. It's dangerous, unhealthy, and I'm scared to death my kids, neighbors,
friends, or coworkers will somehow find out about my addiction. What do I do?
This is a true story. I met an incredible man nearly a year ago, thur mirc. we are both
'happily' married, and intend to stay that way. we are in love, and lust with each other
and have metiirlon a number of occasions - distance the only killer - im in the west, he
is in the east - but probably the only saviour to our marriages. we meet on irc regularly,
phonesex, phone calls, emails, whenever we can - and our next meet irl is in a couple of
weeks - and i cant wait to see him again!! the best thing internet ever did for me was
intro me to this wonderful man... thanx!!
IM addicted to quake 2
I am a married Christian male in my 30's. The computer sex addiction has been a
desaster for me. Since being on line for the last three years I have had countless on-line
cyber sex relationships, have gotten several phone numbers, netmeeting, and email
addresses from single and married women from all over the contry. This has lead to
numerous phone sex session up into the wee hours of the night. This has place my marriage
in danger, my work performance was in jeapordy. My teen age son over heard a conversation
I had one night with another woman I was so ashamed when he found out. It has been a mess.
This finally lead me into psycho therapy. I found myself guilt ridden and ashamed. I am
still in therapy to this day putting my emotional/spiritual/family life together.
I am a married Christian male in my 30's. The computer sex addiction has been a
desaster for me. Since being on line for the last three years I have had countless on-line
cyber sex relationships, have gotten several phone numbers, netmeeting, and email
addresses from single and married women from all over the contry. This has lead to
numerous phone sex session up into the wee hours of the night. This has place my marriage
in danger, my work performance was in jeapordy. My teen age son over heard a conversation
I had one night with another woman I was so ashamed when he found out. It has been a mess.
This finally lead me into psycho therapy. I found myself guilt ridden and ashamed. I am
still in therapy to this day putting my emotional/spiritual/family life together.
I have some advice.
DISCONNECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It will take you a while to get over it and you may have some withdrawals, but you won't
regret it. Snail mail is getting a bit lonely, keep in touch with your friends through the
post box, not the inbox. Good luck peoples!
I have to say that I STRONGLY disagree with the premise of this site. As one who has experienced what you call "internet addiction", I can tell you there is no such thing. From about 12 to 15 (I am now 19) my grades fell and I slept very little due to the fact that I was spending so much time mudding. The same thing has just happened to my younger sister.
This phenomenon is called "Lizard Brain". Meaning it appeals to our more basic and stupid emotions. When you give an uneducated person a new toy(like a TV), especially one as boundless as the internet, they are likely to spend far too much time indulging their technologically primitive instincts. I'm certain when televisions first appeared, the same thing occured.
I finally realized when I was 16 that I was not an internet addict - I was a complete loser, with many personal problems. Spending too much time online is a symptom of problems in your real life, not a problem in and of itself. I was able to limit my internet usage considerably, and though I spend much time online because of work, I now find a good part of the Internet quite boring, and chat rooms absolutely distasteful.
I'd also like to say that I'm disgusted that you are requesting people pay for your help, instead of being a collective of "sufferers" trying to help one another. I can see you doing more damage than good.
Lastly, your page design is astoundingly primitive: borders around transparent
graphics, "under construction" signs, and a midi file that autoplays with no
controls to turn it off. The design and content of this site looks like it should be
hosted on AOL. -lx
Hey guyz!! Whats up? This is Meghan..I guess you could say I'm a young addict..I'm only
14 and in 8th grade. I heard about this web-site on the radio this morning so I thought
I'd stop by. Well my life mainly revolves around the internet. But I don't know if I am
addicted or not. I mean when ever I'm home, bored and theres nothing to do I just turn on
the computer and connect to AOL Instant Messenger. But whats the difference if I watch TV
or Chat online. I mean all my friends are always on so I'm not the only one. And AOL
Instant Messenger is the only communication I have between some "special"
friends of mine, because I can't really call them so I get to talk to him online its fun
what can I say. I mean maybe sometimes my homework doesn't get done cuz i'm talking on aol
all night and sometimes I don't go to family gatherings so i can sit at home on the
internet all day. And sometimes even when no one that i want to talk to is online i just
sit there and watch my buddy list hoping that someone will come online. My parents even
had to set up time limits and whenever I get grounded its from the internet cuz it's
practically my life. I NEED the internet, I'm not the only one though alot of my friends
feel the same way I do ... I am addicted but I dont mind it.
Hi, My name is Daniel, I'm 19 and live in New Zealand.
First I'd like to say I'm disappointed that I have to pay to get any help. Hopefully this will change. This is not for my benefits, but for others.
Second, I am quite shy in real life. I find it hard to have a normal conversation with people. I never used to be able to get around in the real world.
When I started to chat on the internet, I made many many friends. I admit, I am very popular in the most common IRC servers. Most people like to chat with me. In real life I am a different story. That is why I feel so happy when I chat on the net.
But what has happened is...I've managed to learn a lot about other people and their problems, and their daily routines. And have realised I am no better or worse than the rest of us. So I have gained a lot of confidence. and feel better towards meeting people.
I now feel very free, and happy to whoever I chat with in the real world. Only because I have realised that I am no different.
It doesnt matter if you get embarrased on the internet, but it does in real life. But in the reality of it all. *No one really cares if you do something foolish* Infact they like it. Its good for a laugh. And it was only till I realised that, that I have not been so fussy about myself towards others.
I feel good. I can now go out and not worry what others think of me.
What I am saying is...The internet has helped me get back to the real world. Rather than take me away from it.
knowles@ihug.co.nz Icq: 28733974
Hi, My name is Daniel, I'm 19 and live in New Zealand.
First I'd like to say I'm disappointed that I have to pay to get any help. Hopefully this will change. This is not for my benefits, but for others.
Second, I am quite shy in real life. I find it hard to have a normal conversation with people. I never used to be able to get around in the real world.
When I started to chat on the internet, I made many many friends. I admit, I am very popular in the most common IRC servers. Most people like to chat with me. In real life I am a different story. That is why I feel so happy when I chat on the net.
But what has happened is...I've managed to learn a lot about other people and their problems, and their daily routines. And have realised I am no better or worse than the rest of us. So I have gained a lot of confidence. and feel better towards meeting people.
I now feel very free, and happy to whoever I chat with in the real world. Only because I have realised that I am no different.
It doesnt matter if you get embarrased on the internet, but it does in real life. But in the reality of it all. *No one really cares if you do something foolish* Infact they like it. Its good for a laugh. And it was only till I realised that, that I have not been so fussy about myself towards others.
I feel good. I can now go out and not worry what others think of me.
What I am saying is...The internet has helped me get back to the real world. Rather
than take me away from it.
My name is Skylar...I'm a web addict! I can't get enough of it. I get three hours of
sleep a night if I'm lucky, due to chatting. I just finished washing my dishes ( hadn't
done them in a week). Now If I'm lucky I'll get three more hours of sleep tonight and
clean the rest of my pigpen tomorrow. I'm so addicted I would go without food for days if
thats what it took to stay staring at my puter screen. I have panic attacks when I get
disconnected, I worry that I'll never get back online. I call my IP crying for help when
needed. So until I break these habits of mine, thing could get a bit wilder over here!~
Hi, my name is Patrick Harper and I live in Australia I have been interested in
computers for about ten years but only in the mechanical side of them [if something was
new or faster then I strived to get it for my system. I introduced my partner of 18 yrs to
the internet about two years ago, I realised after a few months that she was spending a
lot of her spare time on the net and in particular in the zone.com card rooms. It started
with single games of 'hearts' with the computer as opponent; it progressed to spades and
the tournament rooms, then on to the spades ladder. This led to her striving to become in
the top 5 or ten of this section. She then started using the chat rooms and ICQ to talk to
people she met in these card rooms. We discussed the ramifications of what those chats
could lead to and we both agreed that our life here was never going to be compromised by
someone on the other side of the world. Well things did not quite go to plan, I taught my
partner how to use net meeting and it was not long before she had formed a relationship
with someone in America, I still did not have any misgivings except for the extraordinary
amount of time she spent on the internet. Then out of the blue on Dec 8Th '98 she came
home from town and said to me she was leaving. Within three weeks she was in America and
living with the man she had been chatting with. This was a 'normal' 53 year old woman who
professed to "not liking computers' only two years before.She changed all her nick
names and now I have no way of contacting her.Its as if she just ceased to exist.
It is indeed a sad story. I work in a major law office in Tampa, Florida. We only
recently got our dinosaur-computers upgraded to have Internet access. I am a constant user
at home and got all excited when they told us to cruise the net to our hearts content and
learn as much about it as we could. I already know quite a bit and can find my way around
easily. I spent many a happy hour reading my e-mail, getting ideas on landscaping, and
generally having a happy working experience. Then....one day....it happened. We were cut
off. Oh, we still had the capability of connecting, but we were told to use it only for
work-related surfing. My job does not require I access the net. There was soon scheduled a
meeting with the main-man. He told us what a good job we do and asked if there was
anything he could do to make our lives easier at the office. When no one spoke I gingerly
asked for more money. I was shot down. Still no one would speak up for their rights. I had
to be the leader of our oppressed little group. I asked if this new policy was in fact in
effect and was told, "Yes it is." The next logical step seemed to me to be
taking it away from those of us not allowed to use it. That is what I suggested and the
Judge responded with a long story about money and complications and such. Then he had an
idea. Perhaps I needed an Internet Anon. Today on the news I heard about this site and
here I am. My thinking is that if I access this site at work I am not breaking any rules
as the Judge, himself, told me to get help. Any site I am able to get to from here should
be acceptable as a form of therapy for my disease. I am truly grateful for this
opportunity to surf and medicate at the same time. I am sending this to the employees who
were present at the meeting and will anxiously wait the pat on the back from the Judge for
my ingenuity.
This is difficult. You see I believe that like so many other people that have written
to you, I too have a problem.I am totally addicted to the chat rooms. My relationship with
my husband is surffuring as I seen to palpitate if he says that he will be home from work
early. Before it was fantastic when he got home early but now..well I row with him just so
he'll get up and walk out and I can go online and chat to my cyber friends. I have even
written to some of them given my number and have arranged a meeting with one. I would
never have considered cheating on my husband before but now I feel like anything goes and
I wouldn't care if my husband left as long as he left me the computer. Such is my
addiction. Perhaps it is because when you are online you can be whoever you want to be and
no one knows or cares regardless. I guess the reason I am now seeking help is because of
my rising phone bill. Having to lie to my husband to pay the bills and not let him see it
when it comes in. Not buying clothes for myself or the kids because I have to stop off at
a cybercafe or stay at home and surf as much as i can...to just chat regardless of how
stupid and meaningless it is I feel I'm missing something if I don't go online. Please if
anyone has any sugestions email me at. r_fia@Hotmail.com
This is difficult. You see I believe that like so many other people that have written
to you, I too have a problem.I am totally addicted to the chat rooms. My relationship with
my husband is surffuring as I seen to palpitate if he says that he will be home from work
early. Before it was fantastic when he got home early but now..well I row with him just so
he'll get up and walk out and I can go online and chat to my cyber friends. I have even
written to some of them given my number and have arranged a meeting with one. I would
never have considered cheating on my husband before but now I feel like anything goes and
I wouldn't care if my husband left as long as he left me the computer. Such is my
addiction. Perhaps it is because when you are online you can be whoever you want to be and
no one knows or cares regardless. I guess the reason I am now seeking help is because of
my rising phone bill. Having to lie to my husband to pay the bills and not let him see it
when it comes in. Not buying clothes for myself or the kids because I have to stop off at
a cybercafe or stay at home and surf as much as i can...to just chat regardless of how
stupid and meaningless it is I feel I'm missing something if I don't go online. Please if
anyone has any sugestions email me at. r_fia@Hotmail.com
hi, I am a happily married woman..or i was until i discovered the Chat rooms. Now I use
every excuse I can think of to go online. Everything from checking emails to I'll only
stay on for a few minutes but the minutes add up to hours. And I found myself lying to my
husband. I tell myself I have made good friends online but the reality of it is I spend
time staring a a computer screen instead of time with my husband and family and my real
friends. I get irritated if the kids ask me a question while I am online chatting and I
have sent them into the other room to watch TV instead of sitting down and talking with
THEM. I know now that I have a problem and need help to get over this.
I just don't know what it is about the computer. It's almost an ograsmic experience for
me. To touch those buttons. That way of communicating exhilirates me. How can I stop?
I just don't know what it is about the computer. It's almost an ograsmic experience for
me. To touch those buttons. That way of communicating exhilirates me. How can I stop?
My husband is addicted to the chat rooms. He now has his select few"friends" that he talks to. When I say friends, he really believe that these people are his friends. We have been fighting since June 98 when he had this internet installed. We have been married for 16 yrs. We hardly ever have bad words, but all I've done is cry. Every time he turns this thing on I get so nervous, and sick to my stomach. He lies about why hes on, and what he is doing. I thought he was having an on-line affair. and sure enough he was, this chick sent him a letter (one that I know of). What does a person do. I work all day with kids on the computer, I don't want them to end up like my husband. It's funny I'm on the internet all day with the kids and I could care less if it ever gets turned on. I took an on line quiz to see if me or my husband has trouble with the internet, I don't but according to the quiz he does. Can you help me, I'm at my last straw. I love him, we have 2 beautiful children. 16 yrs is a long time not to fight for, but I'm getting tired of fighting. HELP
Lee Nalley ssg31c@hotmail.com
I am 14 years old and am addicted ti the net? I mean how do you think I found your web
site? HELP!
i dont have a story. i love the internet. my husband loves tv he is watching tv and i
am online. so what is the big deal? i do not see it as a problem. he is thrilled that we
do not fight over what show to watch. he can even watch those horrible john wayne shows
without me screaming and yelling. we have no kids at home. so i just do not see the
problem. it give me pleasure. tv gives him pleasure.
I did. I just bought the book advertised from your webaddiction.com site. Do you offer
rush delivery?
I am a wife of over 20 yrs. My husband has been on aol for quite along time now and it
has been destroying my marriage cause he has been staying up late at night and talking
with women on aol flirting talking to them on the phone and meeting up with them... Is
their any advice that you can give me. I am devestated my hubby left his 2 daughters and I
for this addiction he has. Please help.. Thanks Dee Write back very soon
Our home has also been affected by webaddiction behavior - there should be warnings
about this when one purchases their computer without prior computer knowledge or online
experiences. Luckily we put it in the past but your site provides a great service and will
hopefully help many in current need. Send me the book anyway. where do I send my check or
could i charge it?
i have a problem with internet addiction, but i have fixed it. you see, Pluckie the
duck came to the rescue. he told me to stop or die. i stopped seeing the i am quite afraid
of pluckie. thank you pluckie the duck!!!!!
I agree with Dana below - Let us know the next step - I am all ears - How do I buy the
12 Step Webaddiction book? T-Shirts and Mugs? I cannot get my wife off the computer and
our lives have been turned upside down - The children know the house is not the same? Are
people really taking computers out of their home? Seems like the only solution unless your
book offers some tips to help us - Looking forward to more on this site - Great Site -
Great work !
Hello my name is dana and my boyfriend is addicted he doesnt belive me when I tell him
this. our relationship has fallen completley apart. He started with the chat rooms meeting
other women and exchanging adresses and phone numbers. Then I found personal ads he had
submit on the internet and he just couldnt stop this problem. on top of things we were
completley happy. He turns into a different person around the computer when I tell this
his temper flairs. I at one point have found over 85 resonpses to personal ads. He is on
the computer for hours at a time. the first night we hooked up the computer he was on it
for 8 hrs straight. He really needs help. I'm thankful that I found this sight, now I can
show him and maybe he can get some help. I feel more people need to be aware of this
problem because it is very detrimental to many aspects of life. THANK YOU Dana Walkowiak
Our Home has also been turned upside down by webaddictions, similar in many ways to the
stories listed below. Best Advice we have is to New Computer Users, who need to be made
aware of all the downsides to having the world in their home and all the negatives that
come with it. Don't fall prey to temptation!
I want the book too. Send me information on it please
GREAT SITE!
This site is very helpful - At least I know others are in the same position I am. You
should create an interactive chat for all of us addicted ones here - and a suggestion box
- will check back soon - I want the book on 12 step program - Hit reply and e-mail me your
address where check should be sent -
Just surfed more around this site and I think your Testimonials are quite accurate on
link from home page. You should advertise this site more since I stumbled across it by
accident. Had I known it existed sooner, I would have joined sooner. Please let me know
what you are selling and how I can buy them, how much they cost. I need help*
Where can I purchase your Book on the 12 Step Program for Internet Addiction? I need to
get things in prospective quickly
My wife aged 52 learned about chat rooms about 4 weeks ago. About 3 weeks ago she began corresponding with a 48-yr. old in Paris. Since that time she has spent up to 19 hours a day conversing. She now seems to be infatuated in that they say that they love each other. 2 nights ago she was on until 2:30 am (6:30 Paris time) which means that on a number of nights he has been up all night & then went to work. He apparently is a computer programmer. I caught the closing of one of his e-mails, & I will paraphrase it: I miss you, I love you, I think of you all the time. Apparently his wife is not aware of what's going on, which makes me wonder what sort of aloof relationship they have. My wife & my relationship is cold and she says that she doesn't want to stop or get counseling. Our 25-year marriage is on seriously rocky ground. Our 2 children & household are taking a far back seat to "him." Yesterday, she didn't even change from work, rather she immediately went to I presume is a closed chat room.
If anyone has experienced anything like this and has any suggestions, they would be greatly appreciated.
Peter
pjames@ime.net
my name is craigb@neilnet.com, and I have had the internet program for quite a while
now. Every chance I get during the day, I am always looking on the internet to see what is
new, or looking for people to talk to. I even have to admit that I have even looked into
the websites that are concerned with pornography, so I feel really low down
I am just totally addicted to the web. a matter of fact I was forced to get away from
hte computer the night there was a broadcast on the TV and thats where I got the address.
It is really bad. I stay on all day all night. on Instant Messanger and on ICQ and my
email account. It has ruined my social life. I only go out when i have a feeling that its
going to be a slow night. There is really not a night I go out because I sit here at the
computer. Its horrible. I am a musician and I sit here and practice in front of the
computer screen because I am afraid I will miss something. Its horrible. any suggestions
email me at lh001g@uhura.cc.rochester.edu thanks
I am just totally addicted to the web. a matter of fact I was forced to get away from
hte computer the night there was a broadcast on the TV and thats where I got the address.
It is really bad. I stay on all day all night. on Instant Messanger and on ICQ and my
email account. It has ruined my social life. I only go out when i have a feeling that its
going to be a slow night. There is really not a night I go out because I sit here at the
computer. Its horrible. I am a musician and I sit here and practice in front of the
computer screen because I am afraid I will miss something. Its horrible. any suggestions
email me at lh001g@uhura.cc.rochester.edu thanks
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I found by clicking on the Testimonial button on Home Page of this site, I saw very
accurate and very real stories. I highly suggest all visiting this site to check out the
Testimonial Page by clicking on it from Home Page. Membership and advice are great. Thanks
!